2006-12-11 03:21:26 · 19 answers · asked by jamal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honest discussion with her. Try to resolve it through counseling! Good luck!
2006-12-11 03:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you that all you can do is to have a talk with her and be sincere, honest and do not blame her for her fault. She is surely not alone doing wrong. Have a talk and ask her to listen to you until you are done. Try to be kind and tell her that all you want is to be happy with her and see her smile just as she used to. Be sure that she understand that even if it is not easy to hear, nor to say, you are making an effort to speak of those problems and solve the issues because you love her and you are trying to see what makes her so cold with you and what makes her so distant. Admit to her that if it is your fault, you are ready to change, to fix the problems and make efforts because what matters to you is seeing her smile, is to live with her happily. Tell her that in a not so far past, you have been so close together, you have been very happy and that this is not death yet, that the feeling is still there. Tell her that sometimes, you feel pushed away, insulted and it hurts you when she gets mad or tell you that she does not believe you when you tell her that you love her. Tell her that even if it does not always appear so, you are profoundly sad about this situation. Tell her that when this happen, even if your regrets will never excuse anything, you do not respond correctly to these situations, that you did not do what was right and that you know you have hurt her too and that it is probably the worst part of it. Tell her that you would prefer your story does not end like this, because it would be a sad ending to what could have rather be a great story. What is obvious is that you will not solve the issue by pointing at her, nor will ever fleeing change anything at it. Of course, people should all react correctly and avoid doing what you both did, but rare are those who take the time to think and to consider things before acting. You are surely not wrong everywhere and it is not all your fault, but if you see a problem and know you are part of it, at least admit it. Many guys will say to you that the girl is always right; I will tell you that this is awfully wrong. But, if you do know that you may have been a bad guy, you can ask to be forgiven, apologies and offer to change things. Telling her that her behaviour hurts you and that you do not respond properly when this happens is easier to hear than telling her that it is her fault and that when she is being bad to you it makes you mad... Learn to think and speak. No, I am not married, nor do I have ever been. And if you want to know, I am really young. Yet, does this make me any lesser right? Does my words are lesser logical because of this? I'd rather ask a thinker than an experienced man, but this is your choice.
2016-05-23 05:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your miserable with your wife, try for a defores. After the defores you could date agin and even marry agin. First you could tell her you want a defores. She will problie get mad because she might still like you or somethinrg like that. After a long time she would get over it. Just let her know you want to see new people. Ask her to under stand your point of view and try to uderstand hers as well.
2006-12-11 03:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by black_thorn91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not sit down and think of your wife from another perspective. Instead of looking at her flaws which most ppl do, try looking her positive areas. Tell yourself you are lucky that there are ppl out there who have wives who dun have such advantages and even some dun even have a wife at all, how lonely are they !
2006-12-11 03:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by cinabolic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you can't marry when you have wife? Get rid of wife, then you can marry, then you can divorce, then you can marry...
2006-12-11 03:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you mean you cannot divorce? If you have a wife you are married
2006-12-11 03:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean, u can't marry? Ur already married if you have a wife.
2006-12-11 03:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the donkey and move on with your life
2006-12-11 03:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
discussion is the best answer..but if it still gives you a miserabl life..then get divorced...
2006-12-11 03:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce her. you make your misery by choosing to stay married.
2006-12-11 03:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋