I was dating this guy who I thought was absolutely great. He seemed to be everything I was looking for in a guy and we had a blast whenever we were together. Then I found out he was engaged. We never had sex, but we did snuggle overnight and made out. Should I tell his fiance or let them get married without telling her?
2006-12-11 03:20:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would try to tell her. Wouldn't you want to be told if it were the other way around? But don't be surprised if he denies it and she doesn't believe you... at least you can walk away with your head held high and say "I least I tried". What she does with the information is her choice. Sorry that happened to you. I was in a similar situation and I know how much it can hurt. Don't give up...
2006-12-11 03:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to me, it would depend on how well i knew his fiance, or if i knew her at all.... If he cheated (i would consider that cheating) then he'll probably do it again, with someone else, and chances are, they will sleep together, and chances are, she will find out. But, if you're wanting to tell her because you're hurt, or upset or want to break them up so you can be with them, then I wouldn't, because you won't win. You don't want to be the reason that their engagement or marriage broke off.... No man is worth that, and no man is worth making yourself feel like less of a person. What he did, was mean, to you, and to his fiance. Neither of you deserve it. If you want to tell her, I'd write her an anonymous letter, and explain what happened, and tell her that you understand it might not make a difference to her, but you need to get it off of your chest.
Good luck!
2006-12-11 03:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Silver Thunderbird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell her as why did you not know he was engaged?????Did you get a feeling something was not on the up a nd up with him as most people get gut feeling and if he did that to his future wife I think you are lucky he is out of your life,
2006-12-11 03:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! He didn't have sex with you and you learned early enough he was engaged. There's no sense of causing her any distress. Just move on and be glad you knew early enough.
2006-12-11 03:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by vixen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you aren't her friend so you don't owe it to her to tell her anything she most like ly wouldn't believe you anyway because you would jus seem like a jealous woman trying to break up there marrige you said it yourself yall didn't have sex so if he turns out to be a dog she'll find out on her own not from you
2006-12-11 03:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by queen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he doesn't tell him fiancee then you will. This guy sounds like a big creep and obviously trying to sew his wild oats before getting hitched.... You deserve better. Good luck!
2006-12-11 03:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay out of it!!!!! This is his problem be glad you found out before it got too far. He needs to deal with his fiance himself.
2006-12-11 03:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
will that guy you wear dating is a big jerk f_him don't even tell her let him do the job just go to his wadding and give him a wedding present
2006-12-11 03:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by Daniela A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not your place to tell her...its his
tell him u feel obliagated to tell her, but dont think its your place, that maybe he should do it...see if he wants to be with you...if you did all of this together, he probably doesnt want to be with his fiance after all, be honest with him
2006-12-11 03:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
mind your business.I know you feel tricked,but he is her problem not yours,She's known him longer and she knows him best whether she admits his failings or not.Be glad you aren't she and move on.Revenge is a plate best served cold,so move on.
2006-12-11 03:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋