How to convince my 11 year old to go to school?...more details...?

Question

O.Kay. I had just typed in a question a minute or two ago. To answer some of you...He knows (sp)Ty kwan doh..but also knows that he is only to use it in a desparate situation. Plus, he is not over-wieght, actually he's under wieght. What I guess I should have said was, he has ADHD, Aspergers syndrome, Acute Anxiety disorder, and is Bipolar. I don't believe the school is handling the case very well. Like they are "blowing it off". What can I do to make his School experience better...to get the bullying to stop!!! And to convince him that he needs to go.

Answer 1

Wo! You have a kid who has severe mental problems and self-control problems and you are teaching him martial arts.

I guess you'll be pretty surprised some day when he seriously hurts some innocent kid who makes a wisecrack.

How do you expect a teacher in a regular classroom to deal with a kid who is this abnormal? You need to get tot he school and go through the process to get him into a special ed classroom where the number of students is much smaller and the teacher is specially trained to deal with these extreme disabilities.

Blaming the school for this is not going to do any good. You are the parent. You need to take action to get him the help he needs, which cannot happen in a standard classroom. And you need to see that he is not trained to kill! That is just creating a future tragedy. There are a million physical activities that a kid can be involved in that do not involve being trained to harm others.

Answer 2

OK, first of all. You don't "convince" an 11 year old to go to school. Problems or not, you MAKE him go. With all those issues that he has, I assume that he is not only on medication, but also has a therapist of some sort. If not, get him one. Get with the therapist and the school counselor and work out a plan of action. The fact of the matter is, the school might not know how to deal with the problems he has and they might not know about the bullying. Also, it could be that he is the one doing some bullying and when the other kids fight back, THEY get caught.
The therapist and the counselor can work on getting a 504 plan going for you son and that will help. Don't allow him to use his martial arts for anything other then practice right now. He might not understand that he really can hurt someone if he isn't careful.

Good Luck

Answer 3

The school may not be handling the case any better because they simply don't know how to do things better. Requesting an IEP meeting to review his educational program would be a good first step. As someone else suggested, take documentation. My other recommendation is to contact a parent advocacy group in your area so you can learn what your parent rights are what your son's rights are. They may also be able to tell you where you can find copies of your state's special ed regs. Something else to consider, is that if your son is missing school, he may be considered truant under the laws of your state. Again, your local parent advocacy group may be able to help you with this.
No one is going to advocate for your child like you will. Good luck!

Answer 4

I have this problem as well I stop tv and computer. And on the weekend we read book and do homework that I make up myself.
Plus with the Bully you need to talk with the head office about this
it is not right and it is illedge or you take your son out of that school and into another school that may make a big different ask the school board can you do this

Answer 5

You either need to admit that he has too many problems to be in a regular school, or stop making excuses for him. The rest of the world is not going to make allowances for his problems, and the sooner you both learn that, the better. If he is being bullied, you need to speak with the principal and the teachers. But "how to convince him to go to school???" Why is it any kind of option? Who is the parent in this relationship??? Do you decide what he is going to eat, when he is going to go to bed, etc? And if you don't, why not, and what are you teaching him? That his temper tantrums and outbursts will get him what he wants??? Unfortunately, that isn't going to work with anyone but you, but that won't keep him from trying it over and over. He will survive being bullied, but a lack of education will doom him to a minimum wage life, and being kept out of difficult social situations will prevent him from ever learning how to deal with them. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

howdy is not any might desire to be recommend to her, and phone her a fat brat as thats not likely to help concerns. I dont think of the college will shout at her for not donning a bra she is barely 11 and may well be donning a crop precise or something in any case. Its not a advantageous factor having boobs at this age as each and all of the girls possibly dont placed on a bra. I have been given a lot of subject for donning a bra as i replaced into in undemanding terms small and appeared weird and wonderful with boobs so she possibly see she isnt old enought to placed on a bra. My mum basically reported ill could start up donning a bra because of the fact in PE i will bounce approximately in each single place, lol and that i assumed to myself I dont choose each physique to work out my bits bobbing approximately so went and have been given a bra, in undemanding terms a teenage on at first. Why not get her a type of as you being her older sister, help her extra telling her she is a large woman now, and take her bra procuring there are some advantageous ones accessible. You tell her why she needs to placed on one. You mum shouldnt be giving her money to placed on one as what she going to do while she gets to sixteen and in undemanding terms gets extra effective. perhaps there's a topic there which include your sis not information

Answer 7

Maybe consider changing to a different school, since this one doesn't care. I went to private school all my life, they don't just tolerate bullying.
If it's a public school and there is school board meetings, I believe you can voice your complaint there. Speak to the principal of the school, voice your concerns. Make sure the principal speaks to your child's teachers. If it's just a specific kid or two that is doing the bullying... try talking to those kid's parents.

Answer 8

You need to demand an immediate IEP meeting that includes an administrator. On that IEP demand to see what accomodations they are making for each of his learning disabilities and what actions they are taking to make sure your son is not bullied, that they are making sure it is a safe school environment. Remember your son will have to agree to certain rules of conduct too even if he does have aspergers. The other students do not have to be subject to tirades etc. They have the same right to a good educational experience. Its up to you and the school to find where that line lies. If your son's diagnosis is confirmed , he needs help to make school productive for himself. Legally the school can not "Blow it Off" and if they do they are legally liable. Contact your school district and report the school if they are not willing to help or stop the bullying. Letting him not go to school is not the answer.

Answer 9

ask for a conference with all his teachers and the school counsellor.
take written instructions and recommendations from your sons' doctors.
explain your son and when and how he acts and reacts to words and situations.
convince them to give him class and evaluation support.
talk to him constantly about why he will find school a friendly place.
concentrate on his own levels of achievements and the progress he is showing.
give him time to adjust.
he will be back in school on a regular basis.

Answer 10

I think you should go directly to the district board of education and explain to them exactly what is going on. It's unacceptable that they are not taking him seriously! I'm positive that they have programs to help him in his education.