i've been tring to stay with my mom most the time but she is a alacholiac.(real bad)i've got very mixed feeling i what to be there for her,but she is killing herself i don't like seeing her like that.stay with friend part-time but there is alat of drama i don't(can't haddle anymore)i can't afford to live but self due to i pay childsupport on three kids.please someone else tell in what to do out of ideals.
2006-12-11 03:15:50 · 7 answers · asked by apachesgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need some support - or at least a decent friend nearby to talk things through with.
I do feel for you with the mixed feelings over your mum. You do not feel good about leaving her - but also do not want to see her harming herself either.
Being trapped financially over child support isn't helping either - are you able to negotiate a lower rate - at the end of the day if you lost your job they would HAVE to accept a lower rate. It might be worth seeing if there are any agencies / communities / self-help groups / singl parent support groups either visitable or offline that could help a little here
It would also help a wee bit if we knew what country you were in.
A few querstions for you:-
1. What initially do YOU see as the best option at the moment?
2. Ideally what do you want to happen?
3. What is the closest you could do in the meantime - and how might you get nearer to your ideal goal later?
4. Do you have other friends who would like to flat/share with you - even if just a couple of days a week so you have a break from the drama-friend and your mum.
Perhaps just getting a regualr break from everything - even if just a couple of days a week might make things easier to handle while you sort out a more long-term plan.
I wish I could be of more use - but hope that between al the answerers, you find something to give you "food for thought" even if no perfect answers.
Take care of yourself as best you can
Mark
2006-12-11 03:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mark T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cannot take responsibility herself and refuses to fix it, there is nothing you can do. You can suggest rehab to her but you can't force it. I'm sorry I wish there was a better answer.
On an unrealted note - you have three kids and you write like that? You should go to some adult literacy classes to improve your skills and job prospects.
2006-12-11 03:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The U.S. Army has slots to be filled in Iraq, 3 hots and a cott, good training , and a place that makes all your problems at home look smaller than you used to see it....locate your nearest recruiter, and good luck...
2006-12-11 03:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by "Infamous" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an alcoholic dad. And after years of counceling I have figured out you cant fix people. You can try to help. Suggest meetings, offer to go with her. Try to get her to go do random things a couple of times a week with you. But in the end you have to except who they choose to be(good or bad) or get far away from them (I dont encourage this one). I have excepted my dad and enjoy the little time I have with him.
Dont get discouraged and dont follow her footsteps, you dont want your children to have to go through this!!!!!
And the best answer is of cource God. Hes the only way your going to get through this! your in my prayers
2006-12-11 03:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by TEXAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swallow a 12 guage.
2006-12-11 03:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Eva 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think the you should stay with you mother
2006-12-11 03:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay at home with your mom until you save enough to get your own place
SPELL CHECK PLEASE!
2006-12-11 03:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by cutecamille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋