Hello. In 16.4 weeks and am waiting for my scan to find out the sex. If I could choose the sex I would have chosen a boy, but deep down Im not too bothered as long as everything is fine. My question is has anyone out there REALLY been disapointed when the sex of their baby wasn't what they had hoped, and do u get over it quickly, or can it affect the rest of the pregnancy? Just curious to see how it effects people?
2006-12-11 03:13:17 · 18 answers · asked by Serry's mum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
When I found out I was having twins, I SWORE they would be identical! I wanted identical boys SOOOO bad, and I had convinced myself that's what they were--which was silly of me, I know. I was 22 weeks when I went in for my ultrasound and was thrilled when she said Baby A was a boy, then as she scanned over to Baby B...not a boy!
I spent the next few weeks "recovering" from learning that I was having a girl. I'd been terrified of having a girl for a bunch of different reasons, and now my "worst nightmare" was coming true!
It took me a few weeks to get over it, and I can tell you I was *certainly* over it when Abigail, not Anthony was born! I now love having a daughter as well as a son :)
If you let gender trump the importance of "is the baby healthy?" then you will likely be miserable the rest of your pregnancy. Also, remember that stress is hard on a developing fetus, too! Some things that I think started helping me not just come to terms w/ having a girl but really *embracing* it were starting to pick out names, looking at baby girl clothes, and getting excited about those things.
I recently took my now 11 mo. olds Christmas shopping and I was SO excited to take a glimpse into the future with my daughter--play kitchens, Barbies, My Little Ponies, etc.--and now I'm ecstatic that I have a daughter! I think sometimes the biggest blessings are the ones we didn't really want, but God gave them to us anyway :)
2006-12-11 03:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by luvablelds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was slightly disappointed when we found out we were going to have a little Girl but you know what I would never change that little girl even if I could. Every child has a different personality almost from the word jump and all I can say is I believe the sun only comes up in the morning to shine on my daughters face. If we were blessed with a boy I am certain I would feel the same about him as I now feel about my little girl. the Sex of a child has nothing to do with how much you love that child so dont worry about that worry about getting ready for the reason we all exist to love and raise him or her as best you can.
2006-12-11 03:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by crawler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNEW I was having a boy from day one and sure enough it was a boy. So I didn't have the disappointment. It was my first child though and I really didn't have a preference. I have a friend who has 4 boys and he is no carrying her 5th boy. She really wanted this one to be a girl but she said even though she is a little disappointed she's so happy it doesn't matter. I think most people get over it pretty quickly. Especially after that baby is born. That's when nothing else matters.
congrats..being a mommy is awesome!
2006-12-11 04:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it didnt really matter to me. I did want a girl so much, but I love babies and a baby is a baby no matter what sex. I had 3 boys and have finally found out several weeks back that Im having my first girl. I was completely ready to find out I was having a boy. So It was quite a shock when They said its a girl. I would have not been disappointed either way. I was just excited about having another baby.
2006-12-11 03:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was really hoping for a girl- I didn't find out my entire pregnancy, and really, everyone said I'd have a girl... there are all boys in my husband's family, so to get a girl would be awesome! However, I ended up with a boy- but honestly, I didn't care! He was so healthy and so beautiful! Such a blessing! So boy or girl, I was happy! Yes, i do hope someday to get my girl... but if it doesn't happen, and if we do have more boys, I will be completely happy with them... I love my son sooo much, he brings so much love and joy to me. And I'd never favor a girl if I got one over my boy or boys I have.... that wouldn't be fair... my son just made me giggle now- he makes me smile all the time! So just pray for a healthy baby, no matter what, you'll love this baby!
2006-12-11 03:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter already. I have 3 sisters and each of them have a daughter. So finding out I was pregnant this time I really wanted a boy. Two weeks ago I found out that I was having another girl so I was a little disappointed until I saw my daughter's heart pumping and her moving away from the doppler. I hasn't affected me because I realize what little stuff I actually have to purchase and I'm happy because I don't have to decorate the nursery because it already has a girls theme.
2006-12-11 03:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having a girl....which is what I was hoping for!!! But, if it was a boy I admit I would have been upset...Since I already have a boy...I didn't want another one... This baby girl (due in 29 days) will be my 2nd child... So I will have one of each...any kids after this I will not care as much what they are....Although it'd be nice to have 1 more girl and 1 more boy...even better if they were twins lol....But, if this baby was a boy I wouldn't have loved it any less...
2006-12-11 05:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 08:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first found out I was pregnant I swore it was a boy. So imagine my surprise when I found out that it was a girl! When I first heard the word "girl" I was disappointed..BUT-
Now I am soooo happy and excited, I cannot wait to have her and hold her. So you may be a little disappointed, but that definitely goes away and all you can think about is the little baby growing inside of you and how much you LOVE them already!!!
2006-12-11 04:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by beAn*s MoMmy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i got what i wanted in My first pregnancy (girl) and now with this one I want another girl but I don't know what I'm having yet, I know if I find out it's a boy i will be a little dissapointed, but nothing that won't go away, after all you're having a little miracle. Pink or Blue won't matter in the end, just that it's happy and healthy!
2006-12-11 03:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋