My close friend lost her mum in january, she struggled to come to terms with it and it was been a really bad year for her. She has been ill herself and its just one thing after another.
I have always been there for her listen, understanding as much as i can and giving space. I have and still am helping her through bad days.
But my problem and i am needing abit of advice on is
It is coming up her birthday, then its christmas, new year and the death of her mums anniversary?
i know it will be a really hard time for her, any advice on how i can help her out more? she lost her dad many years before but at new year. i have always been myself with her as that is what she asked me to do.
Any advice would be great.
Thanks
Giraffe
2006-12-11 03:09:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it sounds like you are being the best friend anyone could ask for..... do you have a family of your own? you could spend christmas with her or even ask her to spend it with you and your family....it may help her being around people who care for her.....you have been straight with each other so far so just tell her that you know it's a tough time of year and is there anything else you can do to help.....also ask her what she would like to do for her birthday, or suggest taking her out for a meal, that way she doesn't have to be in party mode but it would be better than being sat indoors.....good luck and i wish everyone could have a friend like you.....merry christmas xxx
2006-12-11 03:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me.... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to say like many others what a good friend you are not many of you about
i thought of a nice pressie you could get her
if you take a picture of her mum that she has or one with her and family to a photo shop you could get it put on a plate for her and she could put in on a wall
don't no if you think that is a good idea or not
i hope it helps
respect and its great to hear some one being a real friend
respect
shaz
2006-12-11 05:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by sharon B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really difficult what you could possibly do is throw her a surprise birthday party for her birthday ot make her feel special. For the holidays invite her to your house so she can feel like part of a family which would help her through the death and make her feel loved that way she won't be as depressed.
2006-12-11 07:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by m&m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one as everybody copes differrently with grief. i lost a sibling recently and like your friend i just ask my friends to try act normal around me. they brought me out on a great night for my birthday + i was glad of it why dont u try organise a night out even something not to mad a meal + a few drinks.
and other than that just keep doing what your doing you sound like a brilliant friend and remember it will take a long time so just try be patient and keep being as good a friend as you sound xx
2006-12-11 03:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I feel that you are already offering your friend the best support by loving her and being there for her. Sometimes we want to fix it all and we are unable to because this has to run its natural course. When my Father passed away I would have loved to have had a friend such as you who was willing to be there and listen to me. Having someone like you is ther greatest gift of all
Much love to you
crystal
2006-12-11 03:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats real great that you have been helping her out so much.
My advice to you is that just keep being there for her and try to ask her out places so she doesn't think so much on those stuff!!
Good Luck!!!
2006-12-11 03:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i lost my nan and aunt this year and i was very close to them both.we were all always together as my nan brought me up i lived with her for years.just try your best to act normal as you can with her ,just knowing she as you around should help a great deal my friend is helping me now and i couldn't ask for a better friend look just be you self.
2006-12-13 05:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by carrie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her out on her birthday and for xmas get a nice photo of her mum framed,and arange something for new year.
2006-12-11 03:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHAT A GOOD FRIEND YOU ARE. THERE IS NOT A LOT YOU CAN DO TO HELP HER OVER THIS SAD PERIOD. WHY DONT THE TWO OF YOU TRY AND GO AWAY FOR A FEW DAYS IN JAN, A CHANGE OF SCENERY MIGHT HELP.
2006-12-11 03:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by aunty m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my best friend died 2 years ago around xmas...what my friends did for me was to keep be busy everyday to keep my mind off of the anniversary...just do little things that will make her laugh and smile...and most of all keep being yourself! believe me it will help!
2006-12-11 03:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋