Sometimes I get a bit frustrated that my partner doesn't have a very high sex drive. I feel that sex shouldn't be a big issue in a relationship and it should happen at the right times. The only problem is...my sex drive is so high that I just want it all the time. I'm 19 and hoping that my testosterone levels will reduce soon because it's not just annoying my partner, it's annoying for me too.
Any thoughts?
2006-12-11 03:07:17 · 32 answers · asked by Warlord 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Whatever you do don't pressure your partner, its not her fault her sex drive is low, i bet she wishes is wasn't. Plus there is nothing worse than having sex when you don't really wont it just to keep your man happy. The pressure of making herself get turned on will make the situation worse and can cause her to dread going to bed.
This sort of worry/pressure can also cause depression and lack of confidence.
Sex is a pleasure, not a chore.
Fantastic sex twice a week has got to be better than boring, meaningless sex 5 times a week !!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-11 03:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by lucyandtj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a high sex drive so sex is very important to you. You will be frustrated with a partner that doesn't need it as much. However, your relationship should have more substance behind it that just sex. You should have other things that bring you fulfillment with this person for the times when you are not having sex. If you can live with your frustrations, then you can be with a person with a lower sex drive. It you can't tolerate being sexually frustrated then you need to work on yourself or find a partner with a higher sex drive. Remember, great sex does not always equal a great relationship.
2006-12-11 03:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, most people want to answer no because that is a general answers. But to be real it is. I do not have a high sex drive but my husband does. Sex is important in making any relationship satisfactory, though that shouldn’t be the only factor, it is one of them. Even on days that I don’t want to I do because I would rather him have it with me than some one else. But at the same time he has to understand that I don’t want it all the time and sacrifice for me as well. We don’t plan times or days we just do it. He could have it everyday, I could be happy with 3 – 4 times a week. But to make it work we both sacrifice. Don’t beat yourself up over it, a lot of relationships are this way not just yours. You both need to just talk about it and come to an understanding of what works for the both of you.
2006-12-11 03:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Tri-trippin-Nelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an issue in a relationship not the main one but a huge factor. everybody has different levels of sex drives the main thing is to talk about it and try come to some sort of compromise relationships are about give and take you both need to make each other happy and unless you do this it will lead to problems later on.
also you are only 19 so your still very young and your hormones will still be all over the place its only natural.
good luck :--)
2006-12-11 03:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that most males go through this. I have been with my bf since he was 19 and he is now 24 and he was the same way. And still is the same. You just have to find a partner that likes it as much as you do. And/or talk through this with your partner. OR try to control it on your own. Keep busy and your thoughts esle where. Hope that helps.
2006-12-11 03:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mz.H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a big issue in marriage, most of the time it is the guy who wants to have sex while the woman doesn't. If this is the case have your woman read the book "Made to be his Help Meet". It has some good advice for woman who don't give their men sex at all.
2006-12-11 03:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by freddy_calhoun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex IS a big issue in a relationship - however, you are young and at your age, your libidos might not match at all. You can still masterbate! It's better than putting pressure on her to do it when she doens't want to, which will build a LOT of resentment. She'll start feeling like a object and NOT someone you love. So seriously, get out the lube and take care of yourself if you really need to.
once you get married and have a stronger committment with someone, this can still be an issue and it's one you need to be able to talk about. people's libidos will not match their entire lives and you need to talk about needs and how to handle the sexual aspect of the relationship with respect.
2006-12-11 03:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sex is always an issue in relationships. Whether a good issue or a bad one. You seem to answer your own question though.
Don't get stressed with your girlfriend for not wanting sex, when you are getting annoyed with yourself for wanting it all the time anyway.
2006-12-11 03:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is always a big issue in any relationship, maybe your sex drive will slow up but if it doesn't don't worry just practise the old art of the 5 finger shuffle.
2006-12-11 03:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by Loo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I thought this was going to be a stupid question, but actually I think you have a good point, it's very difficult for both parties and could easily lead to a break up. I am not sure if there is a safe way to increase sex drive, but there certainly are ways to reduce it. Your doctor can help (safely, not some stupid remedy from someone on Answers) give him a try. Good luck
2006-12-11 03:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋