To decide who you should be with, who you should love & get married to? what's up with that.?
2006-12-11 03:07:13 · 19 answers · asked by Lue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
nobody but u gets to decide who u marry.....if the other person's family doesnt like u then who cares.....as long as u two are happy and love each other nothing else should matter......and believe it or not a lot of people go through this....myself included...my husbands family hates me but i live with it....we are happy so who cares.....
2006-12-11 03:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by hot12flirt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times it is not them trying to decide who you should or should not see or be with. Just remember that they love you and they only want what is best for you. They are not blinded by love and see the other person with un-colored glasses. Rather than get upset or mad about it, why not sit down with them and ask them why they feel that way about who ever the guy is? I did not listen and she is now my ex-wife and I can see how right they were. I did not want to hear what they were saying, I thought I knew better, I was wrong. You should at least listen to what they have to say, it may save you some heart ache down the road.
2006-12-11 11:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rights and duties are the two sides of a coin . It is the duty of the parents to provide all the needs of their children. they undergo a lot of hardship in bringing up of their children right from their birth. They suffer a lot in doing so. They groom them, educate them, take care of them, help and guide them, and support and pamper them ,they spend their hard earned money to fulfill all their needs and apart of this their children inherit all of their savings and property.Last but not the least they inherit their genes.
The persons who gives so much to their children as their duty of-course they have all the right to have a say in choosing the right things in the life of their children. All the parents of the world always look for the well being of their child. well there are few exceptions.
2006-12-11 11:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by syedmustafa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have the right to make their opinion known and provide advice. They also have the right to control whatever pursestrings you hope will help bless this marriage. It might not be fair, but they have that right.
If you are young (<18) they have 100% rights over you.
Your family USUALLY has your best interests in mind, even if you don't appreciate it. Unless they are out to get him/her for some selfish gain, they are likely just concerned and are not trying to ruin their children's lives.
2006-12-11 11:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people feel like they have no control over their own lives, they try to control others'. No one does this better than family members. Just grit your teeth and try not to argue, and go on with your own life. And remember, you will be guilty of doing the same thing at some point.
2006-12-11 11:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on several things, but my guess is, they don't trust that their child can make good decisions, and feel the need to interfere in such a way so as to "protect yourself from yourself". They make all the decisions, so thererfore you can't screw it up.
My advice is to stand up, tell them to back off, and live your life according to how you want.. and be responsible for the bad decisions as well as taking credit for the good ones.
2006-12-11 11:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by rollng_thundr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family members tend to believe they know you better than you know yourself most times, and they believe they know what's right for you. Their desires for you, of course, don't always line up with your own desires, but I like to think that more often than not, the family really does have your best interests at heart.
2006-12-11 11:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by Heather C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because their family
people who care about you are looking out for your better interest
it is only normal just as any other species
they parents typically want their children to get the stronger
better and more stable mate
2006-12-11 11:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by DR.PHIL-A-LIKE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's the circle of life . . I've been married to my husband for 18 years and my granny still gives out my phone number to men cause she doesn't like my husband.
2006-12-11 11:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Rainy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents think they know whats best, you see they made there mistakes and can't correct them so they try to prevent you from doing the same thing ...the problem is that they look for what they want not what you want....
2006-12-11 11:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by "Infamous" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋