Calling on the Veteran Love Birds. Please fly into my nest, I need your opinion on this one?

Question

Now this is a freakin confusing situation..... I have to give a friend some advise but before I do I need to get someone else's point of view. She has been with her man for awhile now (years), she's totally inlove with him, but for some reasons ( which she didn't exactly disclose) she thinks he's cheating on her & so she has sleepless nights at times thinking about it. She's tired of it is wondering whether or not she should break up with him? She doesn't trust him because she caught him staring at her best friend with lust in his eyes. And if she decides to do so, she says she's not going to tell him, she plans to stop answering his calls until she can change her number & move to another apt. What do you guys think about that?

Answer 1

Is she suspicious or is she sure that he cheats? A man may look at another woman if she is attractive but that does not mean he is cheating. It is a normal behaviour for a man. She has to talk with him heart to heart without emotion. I look at attractive women but I know that I am loyal to my wife.

Some women want to control the uncontrollable and become psychotic. How can a man turn away his eyes from an attractive woman? Should he be blinded? Your friend is upset over a trivial issue. She should tell him how she feels and then discuss it before breaking up.

Walking away without telling anything and shutting him out is cruel. Just imagine how you will feel if a man does that to you. If you want to break up then tell him and go. There is no point in inflicting punishment without giving him a chance to tell his point of view.

Answer 2

Tell your friend that if she is going to break it off, then do so. Even if it means getting a restraining order. She sould tell him that she is unable to trust him with her heart any longer therefore it is in her best interest to end the relationship. CUT and DRY, any other way she will be stalked and will ultimately put herself into a far worse situation. Keep everything on the up and up. The reason he may have the reservations that he does is because of these very underhanded way she wants to do things. Men (non-crazy), we prefer for a woman to be on the up and up instead of beating bushes. If she is concerned about her safety, then she should also tell him that she feels physically threatened when he doesnt have his way, also. She has to set boundaries, not for just this guy, or that guy, but for everyone in her life. Its for her own good. A man or woman will not only stand up for themselves, they will not duck and hide from a tense situation. This is how we earn our individual respect.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

This sounds nutty.
Whether he's cheating or not this is an unhealthy relationship. Catching him looking at her friend lustfully (if not gratuitous) is not a big deal, really - although disrespectful it doesn't mean he's cheating.
She is clearly paranoid, perhaps with reason - who knows? You didn't say. I think however she is unhappy with him and for that reason should break up, but not by being a jerk and causing him to possibly file a missing persons report. She should just end it respectfully, wish him well and move on like mature humans do.

Answer 5

Wrong way out! She needs to confront him, tell him her feelings, and maybe even warn him she must do some checking up on him. Then if she's right, he's been warned. If she's wrong, she's been up front about it all and can offer her apologies and she will again be free of the mistrust. Honesty is always the best in these situations. There's no reason to go on thinking something is going on - it needs to be resolved immediately.

Answer 6

Womens intuition is useually right! I can sit across from my man in public and tell from his eyes what hes looking at (ie blonde, fat guy, cute baby). Women know these things for a reason. I suggest confronting him, if shes so in love with him why cant she just talk to him. Doesnt sound like a serious relationship. Women who have been with a man for just 6 months can already read their men and tell when they are lying.

Answer 7

I think your friend is somewhat immature. This isn't confusing. If she thinks he's cheating, she has lost trust in him. She should either confront him, or leave him. What's with the game playing. If you want to break up, break up, no need for the extra drama.

Answer 8

If she is that in love with him and not completey ready to give up on him, they should talk.

I know, thats the hardest thing to do ( don't know why ), but she should talk to him.

Express her concerns, get it out in the open.

I wouldn't just change my number and move, if she does that, she'll never have complete closure on the the relationship.

Answer 9

If she is that concerned about it I would just ask him if he is or not. Why ruin a good thing if there isnt anything there. Or I would hire a PI to investigate and follow him around to see. And if she still doesnt want to be with him, then she should have the guts to tell him that she doesnt want to be with him and why.

Answer 10

she needs to communicate with her boyfriend, moving out without notice is playing games, very childish. Time to be a grown up and handle this like 2 adults.