forget about you ex even though time has gone by. What do u do about that. I miss him, but this break up book said don't talk to him for 60 days and when u see him u can deal with things better. As for dealing with things better that turned out to be true, but it did not change the fact that I am still in love with him. I will never say it to him, but I want him back. I don't know if he feels the same way about me, and if he does pride may be standing in his way or he could really be over me. I thought dating (sex) would have helped me get over what I feel for him. I don't want to contact him because he may not feel the same way especially since we have not spoken to each other. The break up was not a bad one or a messy one, but there were some hurt feelings. WHAT SHOULD I DO about the way I feel. I don't want to make a fool of myself, but no matter what I do I can't seem to move past what I feel for him. I don't even know if he thinks about me, but he is on my mind all the time. HELP!
2006-12-11 03:02:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For right now, while you are healing emotionally, DO NOT do ANYTHING that you might feel ashamed of later down the road. Get involved in activities that are not male-dependent. Like, visit museums, art galleries, etc. Or volunteer at a near-by school. Activities like those will help relieve the strain of constantly thinking about your ex. It will get better with time. Good luck.
2006-12-11 03:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I am so sorry...you know what! I just went through the exact same thing...but the question is was he good to you? Did he really genuinely care about you? I still love my x but he was a complete ***....he really didn't care, or if he did I never could tell...i would lie to myself to convince myself that He was a good guy but he wasn't....I still miss him....
It is possible he does still care...but I swear guys are so wierd about that...us ladies wear our hearts on our sleeves and guys, well you never can tell.
But, sweetie how old are you...Maybe you should just contact him....for the longest time...I still wasn't over him because I felt like we weren't through...but When i talked to him it finalized all the feelings that i wasn't sure about and it helped me to forget him...love him...but love him from a distance. Ne way It could go either way but talking to him will put all of your emotions out there and will show you whether or not he still cares.
2006-12-11 11:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by amy-j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel your pain and relate alot to your situation. Guys have a spell over girls to make us long for them way after it is over. Even though he may be wanting you just as bad, you said it yourself pride wont let him show it. You shouldn't belitttle yourself to see if his feelings are still there. Remember this "everything happens for a reason". If yall are indeed made to be together then in the end yall will. You can't rush things just at this moment live for yourself. Mabey this was a sign that you were to devoted to one man. Is God in your life? Did yoour Ex treat you right? You have to evalate the situation befor you jump to wanting to be with him!
2006-12-11 11:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It part of life. You just move on now. Heck, he probably know you been with someone else by now. So, if he love you, he also know it over like you should and move on. True you can still probably be friends in time. But, this life and how we all seem to do. In time, as you have more relationships, you will become more adjusted to that way of life. All I really know to say.
2006-12-11 11:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to at least talk to him. You don't have closure for some reason. So, it's best to talk to him and surely something will come out of it. Closure is why you can't seem to move on.
You will get back or work on getting back with him or move on. It's one or the other and talking to him is the only way to each.
Good Luck
2006-12-11 12:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel....Breakups are supposed to make you miss and care about that person coz you dont have them anymore but once you go back it will be the same love is so complicated you never fully understand what truly makes us happy
2006-12-11 11:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to him in person might be tough so try writing him a letter telling him how you feel. If he feels the same way about you ,you are sure to get a reply
2006-12-11 11:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by patty m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are finding out that sex is not the answer...and it's not......I have been there and done that....my ex had an affair and left me for another man....You need to heal your aching heart....there is only one way to do that.....I invited Jesus into my heart....wow....He is love, and has counsoled me and repaired my broken heart....God bless ya
2006-12-11 11:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex does not equal love. if you really love the guy you are risking more not telling him than telling him. if he says no than maybe you will have an easier time, right now you are holding on to hope
2006-12-11 11:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by Farah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must contact himn to get it squared off and be done with it, onew way or another
2006-12-11 11:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋