I have an awful time with my husband. He keeps telling, and showing me that wives are supposed to obey their husbands, or submit. I know what the Bible says to do. I believe, that men from the beginning of the courtship, show respect for that woman's feelings, and wants, and needs. She then in turn sees that in him, and greatly respects, and is proud of that man. Then when she sees that in him, she gives her all to that marriage. My husband wants to turn it all around, and thinks she obeys him first, then all is well. I am getting frustrated, unhappy, and tired. We have been just about seperated since we married. Two years! I have been told, my husband does not have Jesus in his heart, from a pastor. My husband says he is a christian. He is 50, and said his mother always did what his father said. Do I have to live that way in our marriage? I feel like he is childish. All we do mostly, is argue! Any help or suggestions?
2006-12-11 02:39:24 · 10 answers · asked by cupcake32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The Bible says a woman is to submit to her husband; however submitting to someone does not give them dominion over you. As a matter of fact, God never meant for man to exercise dominion over a woman. A woman is to submit to her husband for God and not for the sake of her husband.
2006-12-11 02:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you have any inkling of this before you married this chauvinist idiot? Unfortunately, the bible does say things like this, but it also contradicts itself by saying other things, too. You cannot alter your behavior based on a text that was translated BY MEN in a very patriarchal society. Think about it: When this was translated, whose best interests were in mind? The women? HAHA. No. It was for the men. But in any case, you cannot live like this. I would tell his mother to pi$$ off and I would leave him at my earliest convenience. My ex-mother-in-law (as well as her own mother) believed these same ridiculous things--that wives should clean and cook while the men went hunting or watced t.v. And that the women were subservient because the bible said so. Please don't live like this. My ex was such a jerk, and I realize that even more now that I am with a WONDERFUL man. Honestly, when I look back, it makes me sad to think that I might have stayed. Because leaving was NOT easy. I had no money and I was still in college. But I didn't quit. I left him, got a tiny apartment, graduated with my Master's degree, and now am incredibly happy. Please consider leaving him because he will not change. You will look back one day and wonder how and why you were ever with him to begin with. Don't try to reason with him.
2006-12-11 02:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by danika1066 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bible also tells the man to show respect for his wife. I know a lot of men that take the "wives submit to your husbands" thing a bit far. It refers to the man's role as the spiritual leader of the household and also implies that he should "lead" or set a good example for his family, showing them the right way to live. It does not mean that we should be at their beck and call for everything and that they are "in charge" of us. There is a conference called "A weekend to remember" that is held all over the country. You go away for the weekend with just your husband and stay in a hotel. You attend different sessions including one on one sessions in your room where you really get to know your spouse. My husband and I went to one and it was a life changing experience. The speakers were wonderful and extremely entertaining. We had a much needed get away as well as a relationship jump start. You can find out more here: http://www.familylife.com/conferences/marriage.asp
2006-12-11 02:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by chanteuse513 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on how you feel. If your family is a religious one and you follow the bible in that respect then you two need to figure out a common ground. Personally, I believe that a relationship is about mutual respect no matter what. I don't think women should ever feel like they must 'submit' or men for that matter either. My answer is no, you don't have to live that way, nor should you. You are not his mother and obeying is for animals.
2006-12-11 02:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by J S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
in the marriage stronger character Winn's. that is all. always wan of the partners obey to a anther but that is not necessarily wife, so if you feel that you cant find a compromise whit your husband than you shod get divorce because it is a bigger sin let someone to torch's you
2006-12-11 02:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by Tihana T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry this jerk? I am a Christian and I do not treat my wife like that. You are unhappy and frustrated and most likely, he will NEVER change. Be happy!!! Find the courage to divorce him, get your life back together again and one day in the future, when you are ready, choose a lot more wisely.
2006-12-11 02:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by nowhere 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The husband is supposed to treat his wife like a precious vessel, not crushing her into submission.
2006-12-11 02:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Live life how you want to. There's a reason why there are people who follow that book and those who don't. You do what makes you happy, if you cant be happy how can you expect to be happy with someone else?
2006-12-11 02:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by iron chef bryan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather drop in our your best friend and catch her husband cheating with another woman or catch her?
2015-11-25 18:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to a certain degree the man is the boss. however, like in any other endeavor, it can get out of control.
2006-12-11 02:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋