Why is it crucial for one to stand up against bullies and a$$holes?

Question

I know this answer to this in my life. i'm just curious to see how others think and if there're people like me.

for me, i stand up against a$$holes of the society b/c if i don't, i'm being selfish b/c i'm letting these a$$holes take advantage of others like me. and b/c i understand the basic human psychology, i know how to make people fear the unknown for real--it's easy. i can honestly tell you that the day i've started standing up for myself against a$$holes of all kinds i've gained good feelings and full of self-esteem.

thank you for your contribution and i'll choose the ones that i may even learn from. good luck. :)

Answer 1

if for no other reason,...self-respect and preservation. If you never stand up? You make yourself as a easy target for others that like to bully or treat folks bad. To allow others to treat you badly will effect the way you feel and the way you view yourself. The worse thing a person can lose is their pride and self-respect.

I think its important for everyone to stand up to those of that ilk just for the simple reason of its unacceptable behavior, and to ignore it validates it. If you ignore it? It encourages it,..and the next victim might be someone that you know and love.

just me others mileage will vary

Answer 2

The bully is a pitiful creature and must be coddled as much as he is stood up to. His ego is fragile, and he can only comfort himself that he can force others to do his will. But to stand up directly against a bully in certain situations can make the situation worse, i.e., if he is an office bully or corporate bully. One must work around such a person in order to keep that person from initiating even more devastating force, i.e., rumors, sabotage, etc.. Keep the bully in the dark or appear to coddle his need for attention and praise, while working around him in the background, in order to keep him from singling you out for abuse.

However, if it is the old-fashioned "fists in your face" bully, I recommend letting him have it. An extreme form of this (but effective) is in Orson Scott Card's "Ender's Game." Ender is a small 6 year old child who has a playground bully to deal with. Ender not only beats up the bully, but he "beats him for all time," so that no one bullies him again. He believes he has put the other boy in the hospital, but he also knows the other children fear him now and he has no worries of being bullied in this way again. (He is later bullied in a new and different way!) It is a dangerous philosophy and more suited for a certain military mindset, as Ender has actually killed this boy without realizing it, just so he can avoid future bullying. It is a sticky question when one thinks of it in terms of groups and nations, as one is prompted to do in the "Ender" universe, but in real life, it would be important to stop short of the zero sum if the need was not there.

Proper assessment of the bully's intent would dictate the force or extent of action that was required, and this is the tricky part of the equation. I hope somewhere in there, I contributed some good information! Cheers!

Answer 3

dignity, pride, to set an example.