found out that his sister is pregnant and almost through her first tri-mester.... is it normal and OK for me to feel resentment toward her... since I have been trying to get pregnant for a while and she got pregnant w/o even trying?
2006-12-11 02:35:51 · 13 answers · asked by Hblasingame 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Just ask yourself-------was it her fault ? I tried for eight years-- got pregnant, and @ 9wks lost my baby.... 2 days later found out my cousin is pregnant with her sec. child ( 7wks ) and her first child is 6months......... It doesn't seem right , but I cant feel ill towards her, because she can't help I cant get pregnant........I bet down-deep she wishes you the best........Your feelings are normal------- I dont think its resentment ----- I think its hurt feelings coming out------Wish you the best !
2006-12-11 04:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very normal to feel that way. Getting pregnant isn't like buying the purse your best friend has because you love it, so the jealousy thing is a bit more different when it's about having a baby.
Have you been to your OBGYN to let him/her know you are ttc? If not, I strongly suggest it. Sometimes it's just a simple matter of bad timing, and other times it could be a fairly common medical condition that interferes with conception. Most OBGYN's can diagnose and treat many infertility problems. Although we would love to just let nature take it's course, sometimes nature needs a helping hand. It's also a good idea to start taking prenatal vitamins when ttc because the folic acid is so important in fetal development - especially the couple of weeks before you even know you're pregnant. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-11 02:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOTALLY NORMAL!! I too had the same problem..my hubby and I had been trying for two years and his sister in law got pregnant the first month she tried..I was upset but at the same time it motivated me to do some research on the internet! I found this website www.mymonthlycycles.com that helps you track your periods and ovulation even if they are really off like mine were..with in 2 months our little bundle was on it's way!! To say the least we are now expecting baby #3 !! GOOD LUCK & TRY THE WEBSITE...worked for my friend as well..she had been trying for a year..not even 3 months after using this website she too became pregnant!! :)
2006-12-11 02:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by mommyof372802 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal for you to feel some resentment towards her but at the same time you need to stay supportive and not show her your resentment. Just remember that when the roles are reversed and you become pregnant, don't you want her to be happy for you too? Besides, it's not like she got pregnant to upset you...
2006-12-11 02:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!
I feel resentment towards a lot of people who are pregnant. I know more people who are than who aren't. Out of the 10 women I know that are pregnant, 1 actually planned it. No matter how long she has been trying, you would probably feel resentment.
2006-12-11 05:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by sammie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal to feel some resentment towards her. Just be supportive of your fiancees sister! What may help you to become pregnant, just stop stressing out over it, be calm and just realize that it will happen for you too. I have heard that being stressed out only can make it harder for a woman to become pregnant.
Good luck!
2006-12-11 02:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how could you conclude that your sister got pregnant without even trying! It is obvious that she must have as well as her husband or else she won't be in her present state. As for you, you ought to try again. Put pressure on your hubby to give a good shot! By the way, get both of you a medical check up which may throw light on the real situation!
2006-12-11 02:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sami V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal to feel resentment towards someone because something came easy to them where it's not as easy for you. At the same time, you need to recognize this for what it is and not take it out on on the in-laws - it's not their fault and unfair to them. YOu wouldn't appreciate someone raining on your parade just because their life isn't going according to plan....
How long is a long time without success? I ask because everyone's definition of this is different - some people get antsy after only a couple of months of tryng. If its been a year, then you need to see your doctor to rule out any physical problems.
2006-12-11 02:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is. But you should be happy for her also, that their is another baby coming into the world. Remeber ther is nothing sweeter than a baby. In time if the lord wants you to have a child then you will. I thought you were to marry and then have youre children.
2006-12-11 02:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
susan m is right, my wife and I tried for three years with no success and the we stopped tryin gcause we thought it would never happen, one night she had a to go to the e.r for pains and found out she was expecting. She gave birth to a very loud beautiful baby girl.
2006-12-11 02:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by fatpeople_atemy_family 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋