Something happened to me today and it made real nervous,I can barely hold myself from braking stuff and I do not what to do that but i feel I can't control myself to much,please help !
2006-12-11 02:28:19 · 26 answers · asked by in_urma 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Many people are like that. I suggest you to have control towards your own anger. Work on things i.e. clean up your backyard, wash your clothes or anything useful. When we have so much fury in ourselves, we tend to become more powerful and not get tired. You'll be so happy that you didn't have break your own television or some of your plates just to release your anger. You'll feel rewarded not only because you got to work on your tasks at home but also save yourself from breaking something that will take you days or weeks to replace. hehehe :-)
After you've done those things i've suggested, you won't feel any hate instead, you'll feel sleepy.
2006-12-11 02:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by alvin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your anger has turned into rage and fury, then you have given it too much energy.
You shouldn't bother trying to control your emotions. You should only worry about trying to control your behavior.
Anger is a combination of fear, frustration, and anxiety. Ask yourself why you are afraid, why you are frustrated, and why it gives you anxiety.
Chances are that you afe afraid of failure, you're frustrated because you feel like you cannot control a situation, and anxiety because you do not trust yourself to be able to handle the outcome.
Try to look at it from another perspective. Try to replace "I can't" with "I am not willing to." Try to imagine more than one possible outcome. Think about what the best and worse case scenerios are. Think about what could posibly happen. Trust that you do not need to control everything. Trust that you are capable of handling anything.
You only need to control your own behavior. Emotions are not a weakness. Emotionally driven behavior IS a weakness.
Try thinking from your head, about what makes sense. Try to avoid thinking from your heart, which sometimes doesn't make sense.
I hope that this helps.
Take care!
2006-12-11 02:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dumping your hate and fury on someone will not hurt anybody because 1 People naturally carry a lot of guilt and will readily accept a beating ( if your anger is genuine)and believe it was justified. 2 by doing it you give them the freedom to express their own opinion. This doesn't mean you should do it though. Instead try to find out why you get so angry and feel free to break stuff
2006-12-11 06:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by elfogom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anger is an outward expression of inward hurt. Under anger is always hurt. For now hit a pillow. Scream outloud. Cry. Take deep cleansing breaths. Spend time alone. Do some self talk. Talk with God. Then when you calm down. Find a way to find out why you hurt inside. Work on addressing the problem and healing the wounds. Love & Prayers to you!
2006-12-11 02:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When I worked, I would come home so angry I couldn't stand my own self. I would have my mom hold a thick cushion out to the side, and I'd hit it as hard as I could. Sometimes it would go all the way into the next room. I'd do that about a dozen times or until I got rid of the anger and frustration.
2006-12-11 03:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know this is the usual answer, but I have found that it really helps...seriously, punch the hell out of a pillow and scream your head off. It is the only thing I have found that helps. When you are angry, your adrenaline (sp?) shoots through the roof and that is why you are really nervous, because the adrenaline is looking for a release. The pillow and the screaming will help release the adrenaline, and you will feel much better.
2006-12-11 02:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kaylin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, breaking stuff is what you may need to release that energy. but not to or in front of others. not even within ear distance. you really need to put that energy to some good use. they used to use that kind of energy to bust up rocks or saw a tree or use a hammer to pound spites at the railroad. If you have some work that needs muscle use it but not against another. If you must destroy something make sure it belongs to only you.or speak it out, think it out. talk to an in animate object, just a theory.
2006-12-11 02:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Conway 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I'm pissed or stressed I go to the gym. Even if you don't have a membership most gyms will give you a week to try it or let you pay $10 or something to work out for the day. Its a great way to release the anger/stress and it will do your body good! Hope you feel better!
2006-12-11 02:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by niknac 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have come to the realization that anger comes from hurt. Something or someone has hurt you badly and your reaction is fury. Figure out what it is that's hurting you, and find a way to ease the hurt, or to let it go. Easier said than done, I know. I once heard it said that no one can hurt you unless you let them. Good luck, I hope you can work it out.
2006-12-11 02:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hate and fury are sure signs of devil possesion. seek out a catholic priest immediately. an exorcism is definately needed in this situation. or go outside somewhere and scream at a tree. if that doesent help, look up to the sky, take a deep breath and ask god to take the bureon off of your shoulders. even if you dont believe it works, it helps. because the burdon is on someone else for the time being, until your ready to deal with it again. that sounds like a load of crap huh. think about it dude, hate and fury only gets you hurt or in trouble with the law. let it go man, just let it go.
2006-12-11 02:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by heyman016032003 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋