okay........major problem.....but total misunderstanding.....?

Question

okay... i was seriously cutting an APPLE, and it slipped and i cut my arm by mistake.
my mom thinks i was cutting MYSELF purposely, and now she doesnt trust me anymore, like when i say i have done my homework, she has 2 go check, and most of the time i have to REDO it because its not PERFECT, but its HOMEWORK, ITS NOT SUPPOSED TO BE PERFECT. but try telling that to her. anyways, she thinks im cutting myslef and IM NOT. is there anyway make it sound truthfull instead of just a good excuse????

ohhh....and i am a young teenager...

Answer 1

How do your cut your arm cutting an apple? Wouldn't it be your hand that got cut? No wonder she is worried. But if you did do it by mistake,Just sit down with her and have a little chat.Tell her that cutting yourself would be stupid! And you feel that you deserve more trust.Maybe a trial period with the homework thing would work. If your grades stay up,she has no reason to worry.

Answer 2

I find it hard to believe she'd react that way unless you've given her reason to in the past. It's not normal to automatically assume your child is hurting themselves because they get cut once...
She won't worry if you show her there's nothing to worry about.
As for the homework - again if there was never a problem in the past about you doing it, then she wouldn't be double checking to see that it's done. Her trust has been lost somewhere along the way and its up to you to act appropriately to gain it back.
And homework is about getting a task given to you and doing it as well as you can - no it's not going to be perfect all the time, but if you have a parent that's interested in what you're doing and willing to help you get better and succeed - then you should be thankful. It might seem a pain right now, but it'll help in the long run.

Answer 3

You want it to 'sound truthful'. Such worry detracts from what is supposed to be the main objective, to BE truthful.
You worry so much about how you are perceived to be by others, you forget about the love of the most important person ... you. Your mother has a job to do. Just give her the information that will make her job easier, and don't try to manipulate her by making things spin the right way. Appreciate her attention to your life, and don't hide things from her.
If it was really an accident, you would be totally amused at your mother's reactions, not all frustrated like you are.

Answer 4

That's a difficult situation...I know it's hard to do, but you have to remember your mother only has your best interests in mind. It may not seem like it now, but you'll see it one day. If you honestly are not cutting yourself, then all you can do is tell her that. You cannot make her believe it, until she sees that it doesn't happen again. If you are cutting yourself on purpose, talking to her about it might help the both of you out.
Good luck.

Answer 5

My child's teacher asks us not to interfere with the homework. They want a true assessment of what our children know and they can't do it if we are standing over them correcting everything until it's perfect. Maybe you can have your teacher write a note or something.

As for the cutting, just tell her that you know you can't MAKE her believe you. And tell her that you are going to have to deal with that, as unfair as it is.

Just let it go. If she thinks you are lying and won't back down, there's nothing you can do about it except stay on the up and up.

Answer 6

My first thought, why would she automatically think that you're cutting yourself? My mom would automatically throw away the apple and get me a band-aid. If she weren't around to see me cut myself, she would ask if it was a deep cut and if I had put ointment on it before putting the band-aid on. Either way, she would ask me if I'm ok and never give it a thought as to why I'm purposely cutting myself.

Do you normally do things that would make her question you? Are you the type of kid that would cut yourself on purpose?

Answer 7

she loves you sweetheart!
wish my mom did.
anyways this isn't about me.
if you can't convince her and her constant checking up on you is stressing you out a lot, then go ask your counselor or school psychologist if there's a test you can take to prove if you're depressed. if you pass with flying rainbows or somethin then show her and look her in the eyes and say" do you really think I'm that sad to hurt both myself and you like that?"

good luck hon. I have more advice if u want but i gotta go now

Answer 8

well first of all she will realise it when that cut heals and she dont see any more tell her to check you every night if it will proove to her that you arent cutting but sit her down and talk to er and if that dont work then write her a letter and tell her that it was a big misunderstanding.....trust me a letter is better then words its self because they can sit there a ponder on the letter and think about what you have to say without getting all mad at something that there is rilly no point in getting mad about

Answer 9

I'm wondering how you cut your arm while cutting and apple...hand? finger?

My second question would be Have you done something in the past to make her question that you might be a cutter? Parents don't automatically think that their kids are cutting themselves from one cut or scratch...

As far as getting her to believe you, you're gonna have to earn it so walk the straight and narrow. And if you do have a cutting problem I suggest getting help so you don't do something worse to yourself! Good luck!

Answer 10

k. sit her down and talk. parents always like when u talk to them. tell her mom i am tryin really hard and it was an accident. i would never cut my self. i am tryin really hard in school and somtimes i feel like you want me to be perfect. is there anything that we can do so that you dont missunderstand me and want me to have perfect homework.

but it is a good thing to redo some of it so then you can understand it better and get better grades.