In my seventh grade I "went out" with a guy, after six months he started to hit me and punch me in the stomach. I didn't leave him because he told me that he would kill me and my family so I stayed with him to save my family. After two years I got tired of it, so I put my life and my familys' lives in danger and told the police what he was doing to me, and I NEVER felt that nervous. He spent a few weeks in jail and got out, needless to say he kicked my a** I was in the hospital for a long time. When I was in the hospital he came by and said he was sorry, but I didn't take him back after I got out of the hospital he hurt me pretty bad, again I went to the cops and they this time put him in jail for a long while; he went to jail for raping me. Now he's out and I'm TERRIFIED of him, I have a protection order. He's not supposed to come with in 200 Feet of were I work, or my place. My question is how do I get over what he put me through? How do I honestly say I forgive you? He ask me to.
2006-12-11 02:19:20 · 5 answers · asked by lill_angel_07_88 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry to hear you had to go through this, just stay strong for yourself, you dont have to say you are sorry to him, he is sick and should be the one saying sorry to you, Please hun just stay as far away from him as possible. as far as getting over it it will take a really long time, but consider counseling. and dont think bad of yourself, you did nothing wrong, it was his sorry *** that is sick. stay strong and believe in yourself, you are a beautiful person and never deserve to be treated this way. Pray and ask god to help you forgive him but never say you are sorry for him paying for what he did it is his own fault.
2006-12-11 02:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where were your parents? If you were only in seventh-nineth grades where were yours and his parents. If you feel like you need to forgive him for yourself then go ahead but never, never forget what he did. You should not talk to him, see him or have any contact with him. If he did all of this once he will do it again. He should be in jail for a long time. How old is this kid? I would strongly suggest you see a counsler or someong you can talk to and learn self defence. If he breaks his restraining order call the cops. He deserves to be in jail.
2006-12-11 10:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same issue with a boy, he has spent the last 2 years in jail, but not because of what he did to me. i just went on with my life and totally erased him from my mind, it really wasnt that difficult. i heard he was out of prison about 2 months ago but i wasnt afraid because he had been away for so long and i figured he would be over it. i was out clubbing 3 weeks ago and i saw him, i hadnt seen him since he got put away. i was terrified, but i sucked up all my courage to go over and say 'hello', i asked how he was doing and he was really nice to me. i walked away feeling better about myself because now i could put that part of my life behind me. about 2 hours later i was knocked to the ground, he had punched me in the back of the head. i was kicking and screaming and trying to fight him off but just like all the other times before i was completely helpless. people pulled him off me but not before i was left coverd in my own blood and many bruises. if i see him again i will just run, thats all i can do. i forgave him once but i will NEVER do it again. he is the only person i am afraid of and regret everyday that i let him treat me so bad for so long. good luck honey and stay safe.
2006-12-11 10:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by *juicyjellybean* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should contact your local shelter and ask for counseling. Many oganizations will provide this to you free of charge and it is stuff that they deal with everyday so they are trained just for that.
2006-12-12 15:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by elephantfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive but don't forget. I wish i was your brother and this question wouldn't have to be asked.
2006-12-11 16:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by beast 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋