do you have a hapa friend?

Question

i have a friend like that. her father is mexican while her mother is indonesian. she speaks five languages: english (of course she grew up here), spanish(from her dad), Nahualt (mexican indigenous language), Bahasa Indonesia (from her mum) and balinese (indonesian language). she is a catholic like her dad but bec. her mom was a former hindu, she also pray on hidu temples.

the problem is she is confused with her nationality. she can't choose if she is a mexican or an indonesian. she always asks me that question: which one is better among the two nationalities. do hapas usually have this some kind of psychological problem?

Answer 1

I'm like hotdoggie, asian and white. No hapa person is just one so your friend can't just say she's Mexican. With hapa people, they usually identify with the group they look more like. But I guess for people that could pass for being either (kinda like me) we identify with whatever group we're with.

Answer 2

Indonesian. But, it doesn't matter what she labels herslef as because it depends on where she is, if she goes to flordia or California she will be a different race than if she went to the Ghetto or to New York.

Answer 3

If she's asking which of her "identities" is better, then that is a problem in itself. I am half white, half Asian and others define me by the group we happen to be in. If I'm in a group of majority whites, I'm considered Asian. If I'm in a group of majority Asians, I'm considered white. I've found that if I am in a group of other other ethnicities, it depends (with blacks I'm white, but with latinos I'm Asian).

Answer 4

yes

Answer 5

I don't know any , sorry .