My sister in law stole my daughter Jennifer when she was 6, she is now 16. The sister in law went to the family court in N.Y. and said that me and my husband were homeless, that he is crazy, and that we were forcing Jennifer to learn the Ten Commandents. Well to make a long story short, we hired an attorney to no avail, and we did not get Jennifer back. My husband and I are the parents of 6 kids, Jennifer being the oldest, we have been caring and providing for the other kids, why not Jennifer?? New York has been after me for child support and for 10 years we have had NO CONTACT at all with Jennifer!! A person that pays child support gets to see their child!! This whole thing is very hard to believe, but believe me this is a living nightmare not only for me as a mother, but it has dramatially changed my other children as well.
2006-12-11 02:10:52 · 6 answers · asked by maggioleeann 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
It's time to reopen the court order that had her taken from you.
Get a new lawyer who deals specifically in Family Law and Social Services.
At her age (16) she has the right to contact you and see you if she so desires. But you need to keep in mind that the court will only do what is in the best interest of the child. Since you have had to contact with her, you don't know what she has been told about you and your husband.
You can't just kidnap her - then you are opening yourself up to a whole new set of problems, probably leading to jail time which would NOT benefit the situation or your current children.
You may not be able to get full custody back of your daughter but you can fight for visitation rights.
2006-12-11 02:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself this. does your daughter WANT to come live with you? She doesn't KNOW you!.
I have a stepdaughter right now that i'm in constant turmoil with. She is constantly getting pregnant, she drinks, probably uses drugs, and according to the father of the youngest child a 8 month year old boy, she is making her "living' by prostitution. The father's family is the one that got the courts involved, and they placed the boy with us. The father is fine with that, he just wants him away from his mother.
I have her 5 year old daughter as well. I've had her since she was born. My step-daughter has made no contact with her what-so-ever. She has come over to my house maybe a half a dozen times to see her daughter since the day she was born, I've been there for several of those visits, and each time my stepdaughter didn't even acknolege her child was in the room, she was too busy confronting us.
If you ask her, we STOLE her children and she wants them returned to her immediatly. We are talking about a five year old girl here, to her, her mother is this mean lady that comes over once in a while and loses her mind and screams at everyone.
I hate to pre-judge you, maybe I'm biased. but family courts don't take kids away from their parents lightly and without reason. i knwo that for a fact because I'm in the battle for a little boy's life right now, we've been in court almost his whole life now and she keeps winning battles to get him back. You lost your kids for a reason. You should thank your sister in law for taking in your kids, otherwise they probably would have been placed with strangers. Your daughter is 16 now. you aren't going to get those ten years back. If your daughter wanted to come live with you, all she has to do is ask at 16.
2006-12-11 02:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister in law gets a court ordered custody, ten years later of not seeing your daughter or paying support, you want her back? That is kidnapping, yes it is illegal. You need a court order proving you are responsible parents to get her back without going to jail. Ten years NO visits or NO money, good luck.
2006-12-11 02:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate, but what the courts decided is what the law is. It would be illegal for you to take her back if the courts if have given custody of her to your sister in law. Keep fighting in court, prove that you can care for her and maybe you'll win her back. Kidnap her and you won't just lose her, you'll lose all your other kids when you go to jail.
2006-12-11 02:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One correction - child support and visitation DO NOT fall hand-in-hand. Plenty of people pay child support and do not have visitation. It is not conditional.
Have you considered what the kid wants? If you haven't seen her, I suppose not. Why should she want to come live with you. You are strangers to her and better yet, strangers who do not visit her or know anything about her.
I think back off - for the kid's sake. Who BTW, is not a kid but a mature young girl of 16.
2006-12-11 02:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Zelda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is legally in the custody of another. If you "take back" yoour child without going through the court process, you are a kidnapper and will be at risk of prison and losing all your children.
2006-12-11 03:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by kingstubborn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋