I feel our daughter in law who is a controller is deliberately trying to divide our family. I think she distorts the truth and I do not know how to handle it.
2006-12-11 02:01:45 · 6 answers · asked by maddy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems that every family has one. In our case, it is my sis-in-law. She loves the drama, I think. Last time she pulled that cr*p on me, I was two days after I received a cancer diagnosis and one day after getting my identity stolen. Nice.
At some point, she will try and enlist you in some scheme to rally against another member of the family. Simply do not participate. It breaks my mother's heart. Stay close to the other members of the family, and try your best not to gang up against her, as it will then seem apparent to your son that her concerns have validity.
Be the bigger person, do not lower yourself to her level. When a man marries frequently, he is not as accessible to his birth family.
2006-12-11 02:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband distorts the truth and it took me a while to figure it out. if u don't want to be the one who everyone hates i would suggest u don't say anything to your son. in a pleasant and nonjudgemental voice ask her why she feels the way she does. for example if she tells u that your daughter bad mouthed her to everyone, u can say something like "now, i don't understand why she would do that? i have never known her to do such things" the
questioning will cause her to open up and be a little honest.
others will notice the problems in her stories. this is how i began to notice my husband distorts the truth. i began to question him more and ask him to repeat the stories.
2006-12-11 10:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to do I know it sounds harsh but:::
If you keep telling your son what is going on and saying things, he will run to her and she will convience him you are lieing and push hin farther away from you....
Just give it time and your son will see what she is doing on his own... It is better for someone to see something for themselves... I know it will be hard but put up with her while you can because every lieing dog has thier day....
Your son will finally see what you have been telling him and dump her.. But be there for him when that happens because sounds like he really does care for her ot she has bullied and lied to him so much he thinks he loves her....
Good Luck with your situation and I hope all turns out for the best for you, your family and your son.
2006-12-11 10:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do . you must not come betewn your son and his wife cause if you do and they split up you will be blamed forever for this and you will loose your son . does your husband feel this way too? and if he does maybe he could speak to your son about his wifes problems with the family . If not then it is just best to leave it alone . Your son will see what she does in time.
2006-12-11 12:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do, if you try you fall into her trap and son hates you. Just let your son know that you love him and will always be there. Good luck
2006-12-11 10:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start by staying out of it, and not giving her any reason to want to avoid or divide family...she's probably just looking out for HER family first...
2006-12-12 13:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by celeste_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋