Why do spouses cheat when they are deployed?
Case 1: Husband is in the military and he cheats with someone in his unit? He brings home a STD to his pregnant wife and makes her believe it’s her. Note she was fully tested by doctor before she became pregnant and while pregnant before he came home.
Case 2: Wife is in the military becomes pregnant while deployed go home for two weeks R & R returns back to Iraq and tells her husband she is with child. The dates don’t add up with the doctor’s speculation.
Case 3: The other spouse of case 1 & case 2 hooks up for a short time but cuts one another off when spouses return. Spouses here are tested for the mysterious STD from case 1 and he/she is cleared (case 2/3) but she is not(case1) therefore it came from case 1 husband.
How can the wife tell the husband in case 1 it was him that brought it home? She have already proven her case by saying she was fully tested before she became pregnant with his baby. And yes its his baby in case 1. Case 1 still walks around like he is so innocent. Also spouse found emails to prove her point dated back while he was away. Should she leave him since he lied and she told the truth?
2006-12-11 01:59:53 · 12 answers · asked by CJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A relationship without honesty and communication is not a relationship
Tell him good bye
2006-12-11 02:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer me this?
How is the pregnancy doing under this stress and does the husband in case 1 care about the baby?
Do NOT concern yourself with anyone else in this mix-up but the Baby!
I would inform the husband in case 1, he has to leave unless he devotes himself to a healthy, stress free pregnancy. In other words, devotes himself to you!
Many men act like the world is OK while walking around beating themselves up. so, he may be walking around "so innocent" while kicking himself!
Everyone cheated on everyone. That's the past! The ball is in his court! Make Him leave if he doesn't care about HIS CHILD!
2006-12-11 02:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by maj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 04:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married forty eight years and all I can tell you is that the best of marriages have detours along the way. If you love him, rather than to attack him and call him a liar ---try to work things out by having some hear to heart talks. If this does not work both of you need to go to a marriage counselor. Think of the baby who is on the way--hopefully conceived out of love.
2006-12-11 02:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by maddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should leave him not because he lied about cheating but because he cheated--he endangered her life and that of the unborn baby. (STD)
They have no relationship to work out. Everyone is cheating and trust is no where to be found. (and not deserved.) Respect and love don't seem present either.
Leave him and don't look back. (arrange visitation for the baby though)
2006-12-11 02:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any husband of mine who gave me an STD while I was pregnant would not be my husband any longer than it took to file the papers. Period.
And if he continued to lie about it, then I would make sure to get the most aggressive lawyer I could and sue his butt for passing the STD on to me.
2006-12-11 02:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband brought me home a STD I would leave him Pregnant or not.
2006-12-11 02:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a messed up situation. Yeah I think you either need intense counseling or you all need to leave each other alone and move on.
2006-12-11 02:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK IF THEY WANT TO MAKE IT WORK THE ALL NEED TO COME CLEAN AND MOVE ON BUT IF IT'S SOMETHING PEOPLE CAN'T FORGET THEN YES I BELIEVE THAT THEY SHOULD MOVE ON.
2006-12-11 02:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by shannon c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are horney bastards. that's why they cheat. you would think they would miss their wife after a year apart. she should leave him, if she can take care of her child on her own.
2006-12-11 02:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋