I just peeked at the Xmas gift my bf brought over last night....?

Question

it's something I told him repeatedly I didn't want but that he wanted. How should I handle this?

So... why'd he drop it off last night? He knows how nosy I am and we only live 10 minutes apart! He could have kept it at his apartment, right?

And.... sure it's wrong to peek, but it's WORSE to call someone out of their name. Grow up, Mr. Burns!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Life_on_the_Fast_Lane#Cultural_References

Was Marge's idea to keep it and not let Homer use it a good idea? I doubt my keeping the infamous unwanted gift will result in a torrid affair, but keeping it out of spite (which will be masked as gratefulness) might be the answer!

Answer 1

Here's what you do. Don't say a word about peeking. Even if he expected you to peek. (By the way, peeking is cheating) Go out and buy yourself something you like, wrap it, but leave it in the closet or somewhere other than under the tree. Don't let him know you have it. If, on Christmas he didn't mean it as a joke, and has nothing else for you, once the gifts are opened, go get the gift you bought yourself and make a big production out of opening it. Tell him that it's from him to you. Be sure to make this fun, not ungrateful. Some people just aren't good at buying gifts. Look at how many people get on here asking what to buy for people they know intimately. If it actually was a joke, he'll have a second, more appropriate gift for you. In that case, leave the one you bought put away, and have a good laugh at yourself. Christmas isn't really about what people give us. If the gifts you get are more important to you than anything else, your bf's gift buying and listening skills are not your biggest issue. However, if the gift is not a joke, and you told him expressly that you did not want this particular gift, he probably disregarded your feelings in order to get the gift for his own use. While being rude about it would be inappropriate, I doubt anyone would blame you for stepping back and assessing this particular relationship from an objective point of view. It's doubtful that he's this thoughtless or selfish only at Christmas. Merry Christmas

Answer 2

If telling him that u saw the gift is gonna end up in a big fight, then don't do. Accept the gift graciously n say thank u but then nice n calmly say "U must hv forgotten that I said I didn't really want this. So what I am going to do is return it n exchange it for something I like" Then BE FIRM n do not let him use the gift b4 u can exchange it! Don't believe that u can not exchange without a receipt most places will let u, at least try. If he innocently had gotten u something u don't like I would not suggest the exchange, I would say just accept it. But it is soo tacky, cheap n selfish to get something for u that he wants. That's not rt n it is definitely not in the spirit of giving. Ignore the ppl calling u names..gosh, it's not like u did something so evil!

Merry Christmas!

Answer 3

My husband knows I am going to peek so he has to triple wrap things and put them into boxes so that I can't guess. He seldom gets me something that I specifically say I don't want and if he does then it goes right back to the store because it isn't a gift for me if he gets me something that would make me unhappy.
You don't have to tell him that you peeked but you could bring the gift subject up and stress to him that you hope he didn't waste his money getting it or it will be the only thing he gets to unwrap this Christmas ; if you get my meaning.

Answer 4

I would fess up and admit to peeking, then I would ask him why he bought you something that he wanted, not you. You told him repeatedly that you didn't want it, wouldn't use it, didn't like it and since he liked it and bought it anyway, You should tell him to keep it for his self and to buy you something else. Suggest a gift card so you know you'll be happy with what you get. Good Luck and no more peeking!! It ruins the fun.

Answer 5

psssst!!!! did you see the story of the kid who peeked at and played with his pressents early and his mom had him arrested and cuffed for a day... hopefully your BF wont be as mad as this mom was

but since he DOESNT KNOW YOU LOOKED dont tell him

you might have to graciously accept it? or since he doesnt know you loked you could leave a list of things you would like Santa to bring and put the real list on it and a list of what NOT to bring as a PS??
_____________________

Dearest Santa

I am hoping that you thrill the heart of children and people all over the world, and should you find the time after your done with others, it would thrill my heart to get

some perfume
a colorful scarf
and _________fill in the blank____

PS Santa...I wpi;d prefer NO POWER TOOLS pleeeeze
NO TICKETS TO ultimate fighting championships
and not ____ fill in the blank _______
but whatever you bring I will understand that Santa loves me
very much

Answer 6

Naughty, Naughty, Naughty - but since you peeked - I couldn't help myself one year either. Find a way to bring up how much you don't want that gift EVER. If he doesn't take the bait - well yes buy it for yourself later or hope in vain that he'll buy it for your birthday instead. Be gracious.

Hee Hee - you could buy the gift you want and give it to him and then you two could swap. I would hope that wouldn't backfire on you and he would end up with two gifts.

Good Luck Hon.

Answer 7

I think you will just have to wait to say something to him when you open it. Handle it with anger, yet with control maybe it just means a lot to him...put yourself in his shoes and see how you would handle it. You have a bit of time to think it over and you never know after a while to think about it you may have a different opinion about it.

Answer 8

Since you peaked, which in my opinion is a good thing that you did this time, return the favor, go out and get something that you would love to get from him, like oh a nice bottle of bubble bath, or perfume, something like that (something totally girlie), and give it to him. That should get the point across and hopefully will break him of that bad habit, then tell him that until he stops giving you stuff for himself you will keep buying him stuff for yourself, it's his choice. Good luck and Merry Christmas!

Answer 9

Ditto Danelle.

Answer 10

If i were you, i would pretend that you don't know that he has bought you a gift. this way he thinks that you like the gift. Just pretend that you like the gift. This way he Will not feel bad.