My friend, Jennifer just told me she was lesbian and it was kind of a shocker she told me yesterday on her cell phone while we was texting. And I don't know what to do, when she told me I told her I had to go so I would not text something that would hurt her. And I do not see her till 3rd period and am not for sure if I could face her today. So what should I say and do?
2006-12-11 01:56:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You should hug her, congratulate her for having the strength to come out. Thank her for trusting you enough to come out to you, and offer to be her friend through anything that comes during this hard time. This is about her and this will change her life forever. This is not about you, so please have the maturity to realize that she needs you now more then ever. She is the same person that was a friend to you just the day before. She has not changed, just what you know about her has changed. So please be good to her. Good luck.
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2006-12-11 02:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bacchus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just treat her like how you normally would.... she's still your friend right? Nothing should change between the two of you, really.
Tell her it's no big deal and you love her anyway though if she seems concerned on how you'd take it. Doesn't have to be some long-out conversation I'd imagine, just sweet and to the point.
My goal is that someday it won't be a 'shocker' but I guess that's to be suspected since it's not like having a different skin color, it's more on the inside and you can't really 'know' unless the person is totally obvious with it.
2006-12-11 10:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're her friend then all you do is accept her as she is. Her sexual preference doesn't change who she is. She's still the same friend you've known this whole time, and the fact that she had the courage to tell you says a lot about what she thinks of your friendship. It's not easy to come out to people as you never know how they're going to react.
2006-12-11 11:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Broken hearted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, my sister came home last week from a bowling match and she said that she had something to tell me but she didn't want to cause she was afraid that I would look at her different and that told me thier. I looked at her and said "Are you gay?!" lol her eyes got wide and she looked at me like I was crazy. I hugged her and told her i'd like her for who she was and that would never change. Now I will admit it is pretty weird when I think about it now. Its hard to believe that my sister is actually gay, and I never thought I would be helping her look for a G/F and it defenitly does'nt help when our dad hates fags. Its makes me sad and I fell so bad for her, we were at dinner the other night and she was reading a book and "straight parents and gay children" our mom say it and we got into the whole gay/bi/les comversation and our mom looked at her and said "I dont judge people for who they are, but I know you dont need a women to love you that way" our mom doesn't know shes gay and my sister is also writing this paper for her english class and she decided to write it about gay/bi/les and our dad say that and got mad, he came into our room last night and tried making her wtire about [daylight savings time] how retarded is that?!?!
so i'm sry about your trouble and i'm not sure if my story will help.
2006-12-11 10:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lulu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to her, maybe she needs only a friend to talk to.
There's nothing strange in this as long as the situation is clear. I think that as long as you tell her that you're not gay the friendship can continue without any damage.
2006-12-11 10:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lorenzo Agostini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are glad that she trusts you with such a big thing. If you really love her, and if you are truly her friend, you shouldn't let it bother you. She is the same girl she was before she came out to you.
2006-12-11 10:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by jessecolten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friendship is strong enough, then you will not allow her orientation to ruin it. if you mean it, tell her that you'll love her as a friend no matter what. if you don't, tell her that you want time to think about it. but the reason she told you is because she trusted you so much and saw you as a true friend.
2006-12-11 10:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by renaudldw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you really aren't ready to talk about right now, that is was kind of a shock, you need time to absorb it. That is if it comes up when you do see her, otherwise, don't mention it.
2006-12-11 09:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your shocked then tell her but be there for her if she wants to talk, it's not such a big deal and there's no reason for it to change your friendship....unless she fancies you of course
2006-12-11 11:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by shel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would say as to being your friend she felt the need to relate this information to you.I mean if she is your friend it should not make a difference to you.But if you are straight then tell her you are but try to not be judgmental.For in this world there are so many different people.Just try to be her friend.
2006-12-11 11:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by aicilem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋