Sometimes i am so shy that i cannot meet people's eyes and i often stay aside afraid that those who are more beautiful or elegant than me would pass any unfavourable remark about me. sometimes i watch certain people who talk freely they donot get worry about anything. How do i overcome my shyness and how do i become confident?
2006-12-11 01:55:44 · 5 answers · asked by Dark Angel 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm shy too! But I'm working on it. Ask yourself, what are you really afraid of? Also, you can go to a cafe you know you'll never go to in your life, order something and sit at or near a table w/people your age, and talk to them. You know you'll never see them again in your life, so experiment!
2006-12-11 02:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by cruise.light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may, like I, have some sort or form of social anxiety or social phobia. I have overcome it for the most part by getting a girlfriend.
It just didn't happen overnight though. I had known her for two years and she was in mad love with me and I was with her too, but I was too shy and too nervous to admit ito so. Even when she just walked into the room, I would havea sever panic attack.
Eye contact was a big problem. It didn't help that I would stutter big time when I got nervous. After a month of dating, I still hadn't even kissed her. I went and saw a therapist (finally) to find out why I got nervous all the time and what to do to fix it.
The only was is to purposely put yourself in situation in which you will be uncomfortable. You will learn that people really aren't that judgemental and that if you give them a shot, people really are willing to be friends with you.
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2006-12-11 02:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by Markie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overcoming shyness is a difficult task, but there's some things you could probably try and remember. One would be that the worst outcome you think of in your head, has just the tiniest possability to happen, the remaining portion of what you think would happen are good and neutral outcomes.
Second would be that if you have to talk to someone or want to talk to them and actually have something worthwhile, then you are MEANT to be there.
Lastly, don't look back. If you keep looking back to your home desk or whatever, you'll never get there, home base is a comfy place, but going over and talking to someone can be just as comfortable.
Hope this helps :)
2006-12-11 02:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by Cory W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people who talk freely, are not free of worries.... we just learn to set them aside for a time to enjoy life. Don't be concerned so much with appearance and just try to be a fun person to be around. I was shy a couple of years ago and the way I overcame it was just by having to speak in public for my job...... now people don't believe that I ever was shy..... I haven't shut up since. LoL.
2006-12-11 02:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by blackbeltbabe88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first you must know that you can be shy and still be confident. Shyness is part of who you are and you shouldn't be ashamed. This will take practice but if you work hard at it... it will be okay. Speak up even though you're shy or embarrased. Step outside your realm spontaneously and try it first with family and friends. get back to me and let me know how it went.
2006-12-11 02:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋