ive just broken up with my boyfriend of nearly 2 years and im taking it realli badly!i still love him!!he says he still loves me but we want diff things in life so thers no point in us being 2getha!but we are gna stay friends!we didnt even have an arguement we wer out 4 dinner on sat nite then came ome and had a talk about it and then he decided to break it off he says hes hurting 2 but its realli hard i mean we saw each other everyday and did everything 2getha everything is connected to him like wen i turn on my computa last note thers a message frm ages ago frm him and my room is full of fotos and presents frm him he has bought me clothes and jewerally so even wat i wear is connected to him!we didnt even have a proper goodbye the lat time we saw each other cause i didnt see it coming and i mean i chose nt to cuddle up to him at he cinema wen on sat nite casue i took it 4granted that i could do it again any time!!!now ill nva ave that again!i suggested gettin bk but he dnt wnt 2!im 19
2006-12-11 01:52:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
im so confused cause he says he still loves me but we cant be 2getha he wants 2 move away but i dnt tho thats not 4 another year so i cnat see y we cnt be togetha now? i thought we wer happy and i feel like an idiot for thinking this wen he wasnt but its a shock 4 me cause i realli didnt see it coming no one did!we realli didnt seem like a couple who wer gna split up i mean he was meetin me 4 lunch and giving me surprises all week and telling me he loved me and didnt wna lose me!im a mess i ave 2 try realli hard not to cry at wrk at the mo and anytime any one mentions him i get reali upset.everytime i tell people they say oh but u wer so good 2getha which just makes it worse 4 me!!!
2006-12-11 02:07:41 · update #1
the thing is all my friends have boyfriends and those who dont i avent seen in ages cause i spnt so much time with my bf!!
2006-12-11 02:09:16 · update #2
ive told him how i feel and that i stil love him but he dsnt wna change his mind and simply says i should try to take my mind off it. i dnt fink he is finding it as hard i no hes hurting but just not as much!
2006-12-11 02:14:23 · update #3
i just no im gna be miserable ova xmas and my bday which is just afta xmas!
2006-12-11 02:15:26 · update #4
we ave bin thru so much togetha ova the past near 2 yrs i dnt wna lose that or him!!
2006-12-11 02:22:16 · update #5
i no he will get another girl easy cause he is gorgeous and a realli nice guy but im not i ave put on weith and look terrible and i find it hard to trust guy as ive been hurt in the past i also am quite shy!
2006-12-11 02:39:18 · update #6
he wants us to be able 2 do things the way we want and how we and wen we want like go away on hol but i have other committments 2 like college weras he has a job and im quite close 2 my family weras he isnt he aslo wants to move away 2 another country 2 live but i dont but my thoughts are this is not now as we cant afford 2 go away and he cnt move 4 at least a year so i dnt no how it affects us now?
2006-12-11 02:56:41 · update #7
i need 2 rely on my family more than he does as i have no real income im still in education weras he has a job so its easier 4 him 2 be more indapendent.
2006-12-11 02:59:10 · update #8
he knows how i feel about all of this i suggested getting bk 2getha untill he goes away but he said no cause then we wld no that it wasnt 4 every and just be streching out the ineviditble fact we are gna break up anyway but i dnt see wat thpoint in us being apart is if he is supposed 2 love me and i def love him!!!
2006-12-11 03:27:30 · update #9
now he says that towards the end of the relationship he felt that he was falling out of love with me cause he wasnt happy!
2006-12-11 03:53:49 · update #10
Its a really mature decision that you and your ex have made. You both realise that you want different things from life and being together is not going to allow you both to live out your ambitions.
I know it is hard, especially when you have been pretty much joined at the hip, but now is the time to "find you" again! I know its sounds corny but its true!
Try to remove the material things that really remind you of him. I don't mean throw them away but put them out of sight until you feel you are really ready to let go of them.
Allow yourself one night of wallowing, cry a whole load and get it out all of your system. you will feel better.
Get in touch with old friends and go out, catch up and have a good laugh.
Take up something that you would have always wanted to do. I hear pole dancing is a fab way of keeping fit. That would be a right laugh for you and a couple of your mates. Its guaranteed that you will get a boost to your confidence and it gets you into new surroundings too.
Try not to look too deeply into the past, turn around and face whats coming, you never know who is gonna walk into your life next!
Keep smiling hun, you will be fine x
2006-12-11 02:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it.What was the reason for this break up?Sorry to tell you this but he probably already has someone else in mind.Men are a ssholes that think with their um...hm.Your only 19 I'm sure there's plenty of guys out there that would love to have you.Just don't be in a rush to be commited to one person anymore.I'm not saying go be a ho either.Just let the guy know from the get go that you are in control of you.They secretly love that.Good luck!
2006-12-11 02:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by lady2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i feel so sorry for you especially on top of xmas. i know every1 is saying this but in time you will start feeling better i split from my 1st love of nearly 3 yrs 5 yrs ago and i still think about him and ive moved on got a baby and engaged to somebody else but i think he will always be in my head no matter what and i think it will be the same for you hun just take each day as it comes you never know he might realise what he has lost good luck and best wishes. xx
2006-12-11 02:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've let yourself grow way too attached to him. Once you become dependent on your significant other for all your emotional, financial, and physical needs, your life will become a prison you can't escape. He won't always be there for you! It'll be hard, but wait a few years for your relationship to mature & MOVE ON with your own life!!! Occupy yourself with fun things to do like sports, music, etc. You are really going to want to use these next few years to learn and have fun while you are still young. Be independent!
Good luck!
2006-12-11 09:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by mtngrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of yourself positively... the way you carry urself really matters.
u hav 2 look ahead, he says he loves u, why then does he let u suffer by czllin it quit... he threw all u shared away.
hey, life goes on. If he can live with it, then u can do better than that.
i am 17, this is the advice i will give 2 ma sista.
dont think of doing something silly cos u have other poeple who lov and care for u. i dnt think this guy can die for u... or can he? CHALLENGE URSELF!!!
2006-12-14 09:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Abbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are such a lovely girl. i am about your age. but you have never got to tell in your detail, if he is got into another affair, or why you choose diffrent paths. if it is like you need diffrent things what is that you need. if i'm getting very personal i can tell you something
some times when you want something to happen it never happens until you chnage your thinking on how it should happen. if you really think you love him more than anything in life why don't you get more flexible with your likings and prefrences of how exactly your life should be.
i know its hard to have something you luv so close to you but still not in the way you need it. if you really think you need him, ask him for one last time, what you can do to make him come back to me .....................all the very best
and i really wanna tell you something from my heart
"its always the best to fall in love with someone who loves you, rather than thinking of some one you love...."
2006-12-11 02:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by angel gione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok......he semms like a rilli nice guy but he also seems like a jerk...you already told him how you feel and he doesnt want to give it another shot......and i kno its hard to ove on i kno this for a fact a was with a guy for a year and a half and we almost had a kid together and he left me when he found out i jus went out wit my friends a had a good time well tried to....and it will be hard to trust another guy cuz of getting hurt but you got to try and move on and if your ever craving somethin sweet and you need to eat somthing go to turkey hill and get strawberry cheesecake ice cream if you like cheesecake it makes you feel so much better but dont eat to much it will make you sick and it will make you gain weight.....make the one container last for a lilo while and only eat sweet stuff shen w you have nothing else
2006-12-11 03:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by xxrlhoodratxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are really close then go back out i mean if he did all that stuff.. for you then he must still love you... my sister went out with a guy for 5 years... and they had an on and off relationships... its just a part of growing up you'll eventually get back together
2006-12-11 03:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you want to go different ways.
Immerse yourself in the things that are different. Call your family, read ahead in the school books, inquire about internships for the summer or look into jobs for after you graduate from school.
If you still cannot get him out of your head.... you say you want to remain friends.... PROVE IT, call him up and tell him how your feeling. Thats what friends are for!
2006-12-11 03:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess wat that just happened to me- i fell in love with this boy called luke- we fell in love- somedays we got on betta than others- he moved to bristol without saying goodbye- i dont think he fitted in wid da college anyways. i also took most of it 4 granted. me and him were both quite differnt ppl- hes gettin in trouble all the time etc- we also both want differnt things in life. but have you heard that sayin " if hes gone then its meant to be"- ive been very depressed latley but just think of that- theres loads of other special guys out there. ive been getting that feeling that i want to trace him down and begin our relesionship again- but the more time flys the more it doesnt seem right to- its always magical the first time.... just put yr music on loud- glam yr self up- be positive. youll be fine darlin..i know the feeling- i love that luke but love is complication... xxxxxxxx
2006-12-11 02:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋