so almost all my friends are homophobic, I honestly dont know what to do. My best friend, well hjs name is Li and um well I cant help it.....I king of have a crush on him. But i', to afraid to tell him, I dont want to scare him or anything and I dont even know if he's gay or not. He's had a g/f or two but they never last. My friend meilin keeps telling me that everything will be ok and that i'll find someone, but I just dont know. Will someone please help!!!
2006-12-11 01:46:08 · 25 answers · asked by Lulu 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
don't listen to a word those homophobic pricks and ***** tell you. meilin is right, you will find someone. the internet is a good place to look. but lets keep your identity secret and only let those that won't back stab you. think trice before you tell anyone. unfortunately, he's probably straight. so don't force it, and don't expect too much. don't get too close to him or you might get rejected. be natural with other guys unless you're sure they're gay. also, work as hard as you can so that you can move a a homosexual friendly place in future where you can meet gay men easily.
2006-12-11 02:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by renaudldw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I f most of your friends are homophobic then that is entirely their problem. Your friends are supposed to like you for who you are--not who they want you to be. You will find someone..but just as in straight relationships that doesn't happen overnight...As far as Li goes I don't know...do your friends know that you are gay? If so, then you can bet Li already knows and is still your friend. If you are not out he may still be around....you can't hide who you are forever..If he's a really good friend-he'll still be there.
2006-12-11 09:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never tell the presumably straight friend; only complicates things. Your friends might surprise you: with a lot of people, their feelings change at least a little bit once its someone they know. Then again, they might not; you kind of need to be ready for the worst.
2006-12-11 11:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by Atropis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It starts with telling your best friend you are gay. By his reaction, you will find out more information. He may react negatively, to which I would not tell him aboput the crush yet. But your other friend is right. Someopne will cone along eventually. And if your lucky, your best friend may even be a little bi curious for you.
2006-12-11 09:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friends (the close ones) the truth, the ones who are really your friends, will stick by you , no matter what. Do not tell Li you have a crush on him until you tell him the truth about yourself and gauge his reaction and whether or not he is gay.Your other friend is right, you will find someone you trust and love. Good luck.
2006-12-11 09:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by alessa_sunderland 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
image a cake in front of u, and one person is telling u it's tastes so delicious and another person tels u how badly it tastes. Who are u going to believe, no one, u have to try it urself and if u won't U will be thinking about it for the rest of ur life, so it's better to try and find out the true.
2006-12-11 09:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by bad person 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's good that you are true to yourself. The first thing to is to just tell him you are gay. The next thing just wait it out, and see how he feels about it. But don't get hung on him. You might miss out on a really great guy.
2006-12-11 10:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by jessecolten 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sure you will find someone the world is changing and sexual preferances are too so dont despair there are a lot of people out there to choose from
2006-12-11 09:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by madeleine b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The first thing you need to do is tell Li that you're gay. If he is indeed your best friend, he will be supportive and non-judgemental. Don't drop the bomb on him and tell him you have these feelings...give him some time to absorb the fact that you're gay first.
2006-12-11 09:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, dont hit on your friend unless you want to take the chance of him never talking to you again. Just be his friend and dont expect anything else out of it.
Second of all, just chill out about finding someone. You're just like the rest of us. We all want to be with someone we love, but you cant force it. Just have fun, enjoy your life and see what happens.
2006-12-11 09:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by jenniferaboston 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋