I am a 16 year old African American and I often masturbate daily. I actually do it as soon as I get home from school each day when I have the house to myself. I am just wondering sometimes I feel guilty because all my sexual fantasies are usually of my female pretty classmates, the popular blondes and brunettes. I live in a white suburb and these are the prettiest girls in the school. I usually just come home each, get naked, and go to my bedroom and go to it on my bed with baby oil. I really feel weird sometimes because I usually fantasise about these girls wearing a tee shirt bending over showing me their rump. I totally feel like I am treating these girls like sex objects in my fantasies. I even masturbate to celebrities also but again, its usually a girl like Jessica Simpson bent over in a short skirt with no panties or just a t shirt.
Is there anyway not to feel guilty? Is it ok to treat women like this during fantasy? I am just curious. My friend Janie said its disrespectful
2006-12-11 01:32:01 · 13 answers · asked by donniesmello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you are NORMAL
everyone does that, maybe not everyday but they do it.
90% of people masturbate and the other 10% lie about it. :)
Just don't go telling those girls you are whacking off thinking of them. some people get easily offended by things like that.
2006-12-11 01:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look, these are just fantasies. Everyone treats the "people" in their fantasies as sexual objects...that's kind of the point of a sexual fantasy after all isn't it? If you were in a relationship with a girl and you treated her as nothing more than a sexual object I'd agree with your friend that that's disrespectful. Enjoy your fantasies, but maybe try talking to these girls for real too. That way you might be able to enjoy their company for real instead of just in fantasies.
2006-12-11 01:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are absolutely perfectly normal. Don't listen to your friend Janie, she is probably jealous you aren't thinking of her in that way!
You are NOT disrespecting these girls. I would think it was kinda flattering if a guy was using me in one of his fantasies to masturbate to. People need to get over their pent up sexual feelings, our society is so tight assed (no pun intended). Just don't start acting on these fantasies, like stalking them or wanting to make the fantasies a reality or wanting to hurt them.
Hell, I am a girl and I have had fantasies of guys doing worse to me and I didn't feel guilty. Because it's NOT REAL.
Chill out, your cool dude
2006-12-11 01:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by soultrip29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your private thoughts are your private thoughts. I don't know that I would say it is disrespectful cause you are just imagining them you aren't imagining doing hurtful things to them. If this makes you feel good to fantasize then do so but I wouldn't be sharing that with everyone. As far as you feeling guilty I don't know. Usually when you feel guilty it is because you did something wrong or you think you did something wrong. I would say if you do feel guilty about it then maybe it isn't right for you. See if there is something else you can think about other then classmates, maybe stick to the celebs.
2006-12-11 01:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is one thing you need to understand about masturbating. It causes you to detatch yourself from society. You start becoming more secretive and private and before you know it you are scared to interact with people on a normal level. Don't to that to yourself. Get a girlfriend and spend time with her. Enjoying pretty girls and thinking about them is not a crime though but it already seems as if the social anxiety is kicking in on your life (if you are feeling guilty about your thoughts) and you have the opportunity to stop it right now. Occupy your time with something else because masturbation is bad for you in soooo many ways. Good luck!
2006-12-11 01:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you're not jerking off to Rosie O'Donnell or men,you're normal.At your age your hormones are going crazy if you DIDN'T jerkoff your balls would swell up and explode.You might wanna try talking to one of your "fantasy" classmates,then you might get the real thing,but then you're gonna have to deal with all that teenage drama,so you might be better off just spanking it,just wash your hands before dinner.
2006-12-11 01:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your an average teenager going through puberty. You might feel hormones racing through your system that causes you to feel this way. My best advice to is to keep your fantasies to yourself, and try not to act out on them. It's all right to dream about sex, but wait till you meet someone special to actually do it. And then wear a condom!
2006-12-11 01:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A fantasy is a fantasy... That is what happens... It depends on your real life that decides if it is disrespectful...
But if girls are willing to do these things for you, go for it...
And you shouldn't feel guilty about your fantasies... My fantasies are worse than that, and I don't feel guilty...
2006-12-11 01:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's not disrespectful, it's totally normal. I just would keep it to yourself. Telling people about it is disrespectful. That's a private thing.
2006-12-11 01:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jess H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
at your age it's normal.. when you grow older you'll become more mature and can understand if it's wrong or not. I'm 18 and I don't masturbate that much like you.
2006-12-11 01:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by Nick C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋