Sometimes he acts like he doesnt want to be with me. This morning he told me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore, then gets mad when I'm try'n to make arrangements to leave and snatches the phone cord out of the wall like a crazy man. I feel like i want to die with out him but for the sake of my unborn child I cant react to B^!! $h!t. I dont know what to do? I Love him but he says he loves me but is not inlove with me. Men is crazy
2006-12-11 01:24:21 · 21 answers · asked by missy87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont want a divorce, I really wanna work things out with him so that we can have a family of our own. When we argue he would say stupid $h!t to try and F^ck with my head , and sometimes I have a bad tude but I dont want to argue with him because I love him. I respect marriage more than you think I'm only 19 years old, and yes I know what I was doing thats whats I want to be a wife the dating scene is kinda played out to me so I settled.
2006-12-12 00:17:22 · update #1
He's trying to control you. He wants to make you feel worthless. This husband of yours is crazy and you need to get out.
2006-12-11 01:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him why he's acting this way -- why he tells you he wants you to go, then stops you from leaving? Did he act like this before you got pregnant? Is he growing terrified of the life-long commitment he made when he got you pregnant? Is he looking for a way out? I don't know, do you?
In the end, his reasons matter less than his behavior. You need to lay down the law. You deserve better than to be jerked around like this and you certainly deserve better than this when you are pregnant. This kind of stress is not good for you and the baby.
He needs to get his act together and decide once and for all if he wants to be with you or not. If he wants to be with you, then he needs to act like it. If he's freaking out about the baby coming, he should understand that is normal but that a real man faces up to his choices and his responsibilities and treats his pregnant girlfriend better than this. You two might benefit from some couples counseling so that you can learn effective strategies to handle stress in your life. Or he can get out and start plans to be paying child support. And yes, you need to make it that consequence of his actions clear to him. You've been too lenient and forgiving so far. You need to get tough.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 09:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for the sake of your unborn child you should be thinking about his temper and snatching the phone out of the wall. Most marriages are tough enough with out the violence. Just be careful. Do what your heart tells you to do. It never lies.
2006-12-11 09:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by i have a taste for waffles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you accept being married, marriage is not like a toy that you can get away with or just end like that its hard to be married with a guy you don't know yet ,you married him and you take responsible for your action .did you forget your marriage vow to him, will you take this guy as your husband for better or for worst for richer or poorer, so that means you should know that marriage is hard especially if you have children and a good wife is not easy to do. but in order for a marriage to work the wife should learn how to be submissible to you husband. marriage is not perfect their will be up and down you must learn from it. what will happen if both members don't agree with each other and divorced is always the solution to you people. then marriage will not work anymore.
2006-12-11 10:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave before the baby is born. What if he is like this with the baby. Don't tell him you are leaving. wait until he leaves for work and pack up and go. You can call him later and tell him you have moved out. He sounds like he is trying to control you. No one should have to put up with this kind of B.S. You and your baby deserve better. there are plenty of moving companies that will move you for very little money if they think you are in danger. I think I paid $200.00 and they had me out in less than 3 hours and I had a 4 bedroom house fully furnished. But don't tell him you are doing it. You can have the utilities changed into you name before you move and you will not have to pay a reconnect fee. Good luck. I hope you will get out now and not latter.
2006-12-11 09:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys can work it out then you need to try to go to counseling to find better ways to communicate. It sounds like he is upset and doesn't know a better way to tell you this besides saying he doesn't want to be with you. Otherwise why would he snatch the phone card from you when you tried to make arrangements to leave? If you want to be with him then I would suggest counseling. I think you should tell him that you love him and want to try to work it out and see what his response is. You can't continue to go on like this cause somewhere someone will break and it may lead to things that you don't want it to lead to. Example: affairs
2006-12-11 09:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you seriously feel that your child and you are in danger then get out ASAP! Find a way to get out of your home while he isn't there... But if your heart tells you that you really Do Love Him and want to work things out..you should try to see a marriage counselor.
I do know that men can act this way if they are frustrated/stressed. They do it sometimes because they feel there isn't another way to capture your attention.
I wish you the best of luck!
2006-12-11 09:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by LuLu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why put yourself though it. You have enough to worry about(unborn child). Leave now before the baby is born. It will be easer on you and your child. You should of had a back up plan for moments like this. He is acting real corny right now.
2006-12-11 09:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by ajhundley3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you were married did you listen and understand the vows? Marriage is not a fad, it doesn't go in and out of style. Marrige falls apart when there is no communication. Talk things out. Don't "write things off".
When you speak to him about your feelings of anger and hurt caused by him, dont say "YOU" say "I". example "I feel like this marrige is falling apart, I don't want it to..." dont say "You are tearing us apart". After he responds to any questions repeat what he says "I think you said..." or "I heard..."
THIS WORKS. Things arent going to be peachy but at least there won't be any shouting matches or phones cords being ripped from the wall.
2006-12-11 09:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by ting_tang21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything in life has a beginning, middle and an end. Looks like your marriage might be nearing its end. But that means the beginning of a whole new start. Think of the potential.
2006-12-11 09:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah for the sake of ur unborn child-leave him.does he work? if he trys to stop u from leaving, leave when he at work.and if he says he isnt in love with u, then why be with him.u have to be in love with someone to be with them.everyone has love for everyone.have someone help u get all ur things out. and be careful, he could turn violent
2006-12-11 09:41:20 · answer #11 · answered by Moniluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋