What falls into the abuse category? I know that it's abuse when a husband beats his wife, but what if he just really puts her down verbally, not really yelling, but manipulates her and guilt trips her into doing whatever he wants, even when she doesn't want to do it, and makes her miss big plans she had been planning on for weeks like he wants control over the situation or something? By guilt trip I mean there were plans to go to a friend's house and help her cook her very first turkey of all time, and then last minute before going the husband says that really they would like to come home to his family, and if she chose to go to the friend's house that meant that friends were coming before family, which meant that she couldn't take care of family, and then he threatened he could make it so she didn't have a family to take care of anymore.
2006-12-11 01:09:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Warning signs of abuse:
Tries to isolate you from friends and family.
Does not want you to spend time with anybody else.
Hits, punches, kicks or shoves you. Or, threatens to hurt you in any way.
Is extremely jealous.
Gets mad when you talk to other people.
Is possessive. Treats you like a belonging and does not want you to share your time with other people.
Is controlling. Insists that you call to "check in" or ask permission to do things.
Tries to control what you wear, what you do and how you act.
Scares you. Makes you worry about reactions to things you say or do.
Behaves violently. Owns weapons and threatens to use them.
Has a history of fighting, loses temper quickly, has hurt animals or other people.
Is emotionally abusive. Puts you down, calls you names, tells you you are nothing without him/her.
Makes all the decisions in the relationship. Does not care about your thoughts and feelings.
Abuses alcohol or drugs and pressures you to take them.
Won't accept breaking up. Threatens to hurt you, or him/herself if you break up.
Stalks you after you've tried to break if off.
2006-12-11 01:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by silverside 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 11:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave, I was in a relationship for 7 years i endured punches,slaps, but i think the most damaging thing was the verbal abuse. Brusies heal, words are with u for a lifetime. I was told i was no good, would never amount to anything, and that no one would ever want me if i left. But i did leave and have happy life now went and recived my GED when i was 37 and now getting ready to take some college classes, And if you have kids dont stay just because of them, they will only grow to think that is the way you should be treated.
2006-12-11 01:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by Diana D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's abuse.
I have had two abusive relationships...one of them gave me the occational punch in the head,or shove,or slap, the other one destroyed me with words, the bruises healed, the insults didn't.
This is not a healthy situation for you, get out while you can.
He sounds childish, cruel and needy. You clearly are not an idiot, understand this, every day he does and says the things he is doing...you lose ground. He will strip your ego and confidence, don't be another statistic, run...get out...shut that door and leave him. good luck to you sista...
2006-12-11 01:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be considered psychological abuse. As with all abusive situations, it is best, no matter how scary, for the abused to leave. Sooner the better.
2006-12-11 01:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Leises 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is mental abuse, where they try and control everything, because they have a low self worth themselves. time to seek marriage counciling, if he refuses i would not stay and suffer. he has some issues deep within himself,life is way too short to waste it on a controller.
2006-12-11 11:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call that more emotional blackmail than abuse. It is abuse, however.
I'd also call him a world class putz.
2006-12-11 01:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey, the mental abuse hurts more and last longer than beating
2006-12-11 01:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by j y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling you...The more you give in the easier it is for him to do it...It would be considered emotional abuse...
2006-12-11 01:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is emotional abuse and it is hard to prove but it can be done.
2006-12-11 01:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋