i am currently in college, i have always been this secure girl who is never afraid to do things or talk to people(or atleast never showed that i was scared), but now i am always nervous when i have to talk to advisors or just thinking about what is going to happen to me when i get my first job(that pertains to my major), how can i gain my confidence back, i there something i should do to get over my fear of dealing with people, and fast?
2006-12-11 01:05:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Welcome to the realms of adulthood!
It's perfectly normal to worry about the future, as children we have no fear because we don't understand the consequences of our actions. The older we get, the more aware we are of the potential pitfalls of the paths we choose and the decisions we make. You are on the brink of an exciting time of your life, a time when the decisions and choices to be made are yours, and yours alone. With that comes the responsibility of what will happen as a result of those choices and decisions. It's a big leap and a pretty daunting one but it's all part and parcel of growing up and asserting your independence.
You are obviously feeling a little out of your comfort zone at the moment, it might be a time to step back from things and reassess where you are currently at and what you are aiming for in the immediate future. Once you have that clear in your mind, visit your advisor and talk through the best ways of achieving what you are aiming for. There is nothing to fear from talking to advisors, they are there to assist you and guide you through all the decisions you will have to make.
Don't forget that advisors have a good deal of knowledge and experience and knowledge is power. It will be that knowledge that you can utilise to make good, solid, well balanced decisions on your career.
Don't try and struggle through things on your own, use what help is out there and at least that will take some of the pressure off you.
Good luck!
2006-12-11 01:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Witchywoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have known what you wanted to achieve, and you drove yourself towards this goal. Now, you are coming close to completing this goal, and this fact is scaring you. You are about to go into a world that is unfamiliar to you. Take a moment and look at what you have accomplished. You have done more than most of young adults your age, and you will accomplish more. Remember, your first job is just another opportunity to learn. Unless you sign a multi-year contract, you can always choose another job if it doesn't work out. Relax, you really are in the drivers seat of your life. Go where you want. Don't worry so much and enjoy the ride.
2006-12-11 09:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you have anxiety or stress. College is stressful and it could be scary. Maybe your not getting enough sleep and your getting tired a lot. Or your just not sure about a lot of things but you know it. or your getting way to much work. You need to relax. Go to Starbucks and get a cup of coffee or what ever you like then call a friend over to hang out. Just relax and have fun. Then wants you start doing your homework then make sure you have enough time to do home work and so you will get a good night sleep.
2006-12-11 09:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone will have to go through a stage of life when nervousness and fear dominate.dont worry abt problems of th efuture without dealing with that of the present.i suggest u can either meet a counsellor or take yoga classes.yoga is extremely effective and beneficia.l and i say this bcos as a child i started yoga and have seen the benefits
I hope u found this useful and if not hope u get a better answer.
2006-12-11 09:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax,.. take a deep breath,. and take things one thing at a time
Looking to the future is good, but worrying about things that haven't happened yet, or that you have no control over won't do you any good now will it?
Look to your friends and family for support, and advice since they are the ones that know you best right?
You'll be fine :)
2006-12-11 09:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Khepri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get books by Dale Carnegie, they will assist you. And go to the link below and watch it once everyday---it will lift you up. Have the sound on. Well worth your time (less than 5 minutes). Your recognition of this is the first step you could take to assist you. Best of luck for future.
Bless you for trying!
Source(s):
http://video.thesecret.tv/quicktime/secr...
2006-12-11 09:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Aim4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the courage to face the fear! Have the courage to take that one step forward to beat the FEAR! You can do it.
You can frighten the FEAR in its face because you are a God's special child.
2006-12-11 09:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being weak. you need to remember that you must be the best you can be. whatever weaknesses you find within yourself you must make them your strengths. if you cant do that then just drop out of college and become a waitress. i get angry and remember i am better and that s what helps me through college and thats what you need to do.
2006-12-11 09:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Narrow the focus of your thoughts to the task at hand, and not let your thoughts run away with you.
2006-12-11 09:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋