What are some ways I can get my husband into bed?

Question

While being pregnant and afterwards now, I've noticed that my husband doesn't really like to "do it" anymore. How can I get him back into the mood?

I always have to take the initiative into getting my husband into bed. How can I get him to be the one to take the initiative?

Answer 1

Women that are pregnant are hot! I'm not sure what it is other than some sick joke from god that makes pregnant women so attractive...since they are most likely already taken.

After pregnancy can be a little tougher. If the husband was in the delivery room and saw the birth he could be a little 'taken back' by what he saw (it happened to me). I happen to love sex so it didn't take me long to get over it, but I've heard of guys that take a while to recover from what they saw.

Post birth, make sure he is aware of your cleanliness (make announcements when you are showering or bathing), take a lot of baths since most guys asscociate that with cleanliness (of certain areas), get some sexy lingerie, and maybe talk 'dirty'. He should be responsive (unless he's gay :-)).

Your husband is lucky to have someone like you, I wish my wife was focused on our relationship like you are.

Answer 2

Sounds like he has the Madoona complex. He now sees you as a mother and not as the sexy woman you were before the baby. Give him some time and don't pressure him.

In the meantime. Keep your self sexy and in shape. Surprise him in a teddy and he's sure to come around

Answer 3

Have time with just him when the kids are dropped off with a baby sitter (or this sitter comes over and you go out). Guys can feel like big pervs wanting to do naughty things to the kids' mommy. If you want him to feel turned on by you, make sure you go out of your way to make sure he knows that you're still his wife, not just the kids' mommy.

Answer 4

hmm...that is a toughie. Well, here are a few things I have suggested to some friends:

1. After the kids go to bed (and are asleep) walk around the house naked...he may get the idea.

2. If he doesn't get the idea, walk up to him (naked) and pull his pants down and begin to give him a BJ.

3. If he still refuses you, tell him to go see a therapist and get yourself some mechanical help.

Hope these help.

Answer 5

what you might wont to do is get away drop the baby at grandma and you to take some time together. and after haveing a romtice night ask him now that we have a child we need to plan a sex nights.

what i'm trying to say is to talk, make time and ask what his need are and tell him your need and then thing will get back to normal.

Answer 6

Get him some facts about sex and pregnancy. If he knows that no one else is watching or that he won't harm you are the baby it might help alot. Also, try doing a little felatio to him and lure him back to bed.

Answer 7

Make things a little dirty. Just go up to him a talk dirty or just start playing with yourself in front of him. Rub you breast in his face and give him oral. It's really not that hard to get a man interested.

Answer 8

in the experience that your sister does not have confidence you it ability she maximum in all likelihood has have confidence matters with the husband. tell her not something happened and that he purely made a room mistake he became into ineffective inebriated if she nonetheless does not have confidence you tell her to pass get some help together with her have confidence issues and jealousy matters..

Answer 9

Offer him lots of BJs. That is a very loving gesture to a man.

Answer 10

YEah, I agree with the woman above. PLUS, you can always tie him up and force him...lol