Dear Someday...I am a single mom too. Have been forever, ok really just 22 years, my son is 25. This is the toughest "job" you wil EVER face. As you know very well yourself, you have twice the parenting responsibility on 1/2 the money (If you are working full time.)
Home costs are not REDUCED if you are single income, you must somehow come up w/ the same "total" as a two income household. How do you pull together down payment $ like that?
1st, You have to cut expenses to the bone & live w/ family for a while. So by staying w/ your mom, you are ALREADY doing this part right. It's quite a blow to your independance & your self-esteem right now, but try to see this as TEMPORARY, not a life sentence. That alone will help your mood.
You can't put aside any $ until you find work, so here are my ideas- As an LPN, you'd be very sought after in the field of Elderly Care (if that appeals to you) it's a growing industry as we baby boomers are aging & having to pay for our excessive indulgences of youth. You can usually work on your own schedule so working around kids school hours etc is not as difficult. OR, you may want to consider being a Physicians assistant in a doctors office or a clinic. Ideally, you might find a womens clinic & be able to get treatment for your breast lumps at your new job. You can't rule this out until you TRY.
Clothes, a listening ear, and practical assistance is available thru United Way, Goodwill, salvation army, & a host of community programs. All of these, & some churches, offer a resource list for struggling families to rehabilitate their life. You need help to get new clothes & an interview outfit, they'll do that. (I had to do this myself!)
Many organizations can refer you to job placement agencies, revamp your resume, & work w/ you one on one so you gain confidence to ACE an interview. Lots of folks don't understand the MOUNTAIN of obstacles in facing the job market when your life is so overwhelming. I do.
The road ahead of you is all uphill. There is no easy quick fix for a single mom. Society does not reach out to support us or offer praise when we meet our goals. Instead we are judged as defective, or less than, the NORMAL families who do well w/ two parents-two incomes- and the security that provides. But you are NOT less than. You have every right to feel depressed once in a while. THEY don't walk in your shoes. So don't ever let their attitude defeat you!!
Your kids will not think less of you, I guarantee. My son saw me struggle to keep us afloat on $20,000/year. I have a high school education, no extraordinary skills, no family nearby to do babysitting or help out. But he admires me. Even though we had less than others in our neighborhood, he knew his mom did everything possible, JUST FOR HIM. Your kids will be very proud of you, I promise.
Take it one day at a time, start with small goals. Make a list. Today you might contact Salvation Army & ask about Toys for Tots or the Empty Stocking Fund. That'll do Christmas for your kids. Tomorrow, go out to visit charities for work clothes. A new outfit will do you good! See, do ONE thing every day. It's not quite as huge that way.
If you Ask another question & let me know where you live, I'll see if I can locate additional local assistance too. We still need to figure a way out of the crappy car too! I'm stumped until I know your city & state.
For now, just know there are single moms who made it, and LOTS of us who do care.
2006-12-11 02:15:55
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answered by upside down 4
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2016-10-18 02:43:42
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answered by binnu 4
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You need a do over........however life really doesn't come with those very often. I'm an LPN and I really love nursing....I love being an LPN....really don't want to be an RN....too much paper work. You really need to find something to do for a living that you love......and do it.....the money will follow. You have an enormous responsiblity to those kids....get your act together an show them how to pull themselves up.
2006-12-11 01:01:15
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answered by Monte T 6
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The only way you are going to get through all of this is if you pick yourself up and get your life together. You're kids need you to be healthy and strong. Have you considered therapy?
2006-12-11 00:59:08
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answered by noonee333 4
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Sounds like you need to see your Dr. to get treated for depresion, then get yourself on a program to loose the weight and start feeling better about yourself.
2006-12-11 10:35:38
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answered by Delta Charlie 4
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