I have a friend who is in the military with me and before he left he got married to a woman he has known for a very long time. He asked me to look out for her and make sure nothing has happened to her is she is going through something be there for her. Well the problem is that he has been very mean to her and is stressing her out to a degree past the stress that she has already been at with him being gone away from her. She doesnt know what to do and wants my advice. Does anyone have any advice i can give her?
2006-12-11 00:49:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand that friend is in a very stressful situation ( I'm assuming that he is deployed overseas ). He may be transferring his stress onto her and she's not dealing with it well. They both need to address their own issues. Your pal in the military needs to learn to release his stress in ways that don't affect other people. Working out seems to be a favorite method. She needs to learn not to take things as a personal attack. She might do well with some self help counseling. Yoga and meditation might help her also to become more centered and more confident in herself.
Good luck. You're being a terrific friend for doing this for them.
2006-12-11 00:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she might be having some feelings for you for starters. Maybe it's just out of lonliness, but it's there. You're a good guy if you can handle your friends woman wanting your emotional support and advice, and confiding in you, without overstepping boundaries. I don't think she really wants advice~as much as she wants someone to fill the void and relieve the hurt she is feeling from that guy being mean, and being separated from him. She really needs to talk to her boyfriend about those things, because she is putting you in a difficult position.
2006-12-11 01:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop stressing out over this boy!.Make her life better yourself! Give her stress relief in the here and now lol. Have fun babe. She will to.
2006-12-11 01:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is stressing her out then she need to leave him alone but when she is tired of being stressed then she will so just let her do what she feel is right.
2006-12-11 01:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to talk to him about her feelings. Give him a chance to address them before she takes any further steps or talks to anyone else.
2006-12-11 00:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greg is that you? lol
be strong and hold on, he'll be home soon and evreything should be fine
2006-12-11 00:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to contact police if abuse starts again and give her a lawyer's card for the divorce.
2006-12-11 00:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋