i am a happily married indian woman with 1 child. 6 months ago i was introduced by my husband with his collegue. he has very nice and attractive nature. after the first meeting he visits us regularly. we got friendly and come close to each other. now a days i realize that he is attracted towards me and i also feel the same towards him. in one very weak moment we involved in a physical relationship. now he wants to continue this relationship. i dont want to cheat my husband, but at the same time i can not control my emotions towards him too. i am confused what to do now. please help e.
2006-12-11 00:43:44 · 11 answers · asked by Aditi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ouch...an emotional relationship....that is the worst kind.
Coming from another married woman w/ a child who was in a situation like that (minus the physical part). My best advice would be to cut him off completely....now this is after you decide how you feel about your husband. Do you want to be with him? (Not because you have no other financial choice or child. But because you really love him, every part of him.) Sometimes people get hurt, which is almost always impossible to avoid. Maybe you should seek counseling (on your own and w/o your husband's knowledge). This could be the start of a new chapter in your life and your husband's life...whether it be together or separate. GL!
2006-12-11 00:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by pinkchicchild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry, but you have already cheated on him. If you love your husband and child more than this other man, tell him that he needs to back off and you need to reign in your emotions. If you can't, then get a divorce. You can't keep the relationship going on the side because your husband will eventually find out. If you tell your husband, he may divorce you. If you are afraid he may hurt you, then I would divorce him first and never tell him why.
2006-12-11 00:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by KJ97Y100 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel if you were happily married moman you would not have cheated on him. I don't believe in cheating and if it were me i would end it and stay away, and i myself would probably tell my husband, not alot of people would but the guilt would eat me alive,, to many people get married and get bored with it and start straying, there must be something your missing in your relationship for you to do what you did, if you feel strongly for this other man confront your husband, and don't live a lie, i still think honesty is the best policy.
2006-12-11 00:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on a slippery slope! If you were happily married then you would not have been distracted by his friend. Either case, your marriage is over! If you dont continue the affair, the friend will tell your husband, and that is extortion. Blackmailed sex is never as gratifying as the free will kind. Futhermore, do you think that your husband will want you after you have slept with his friend? Unless you are moviestar beautiful, I wouldnt! And maybe then it would be questionable.
2006-12-11 00:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want your marriage to work out then cut all ties with this other guy. Having a little one I think it's only fair that you give your marriage a chance and it won't happen with the other man in the picture. You probably are feeling these feelings about this other man because something is missing in your marriage so work on finding out just what it really is and try to fix it. Good luck to you. ;o)
2006-12-11 01:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to remain in your marriage, you need to break things off immediately. If you can't control your emotions toward him, then just avoid him. If you are not around him, then you won't do something you will regret later. Think of your child... isn't it worth it to give your child a happy home with both parents?
2006-12-11 00:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Julie F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can A: tell your husband about your mistake and deal with the consequences
B:not tell your husband and break it off immediately!
C:continue with the relationship and live your life like a candle in the wind!
2006-12-11 01:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you think your emotions for him are taking over, think of your child and how you will destroy their perception of honor in life by acting like a child.
2006-12-11 00:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're a wh*re! Tell your husband the truth so he can move on and find someone who is that a prostitute.
2006-12-11 00:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
tell your hubby you want a lover on the side!
2006-12-11 00:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋