His wife left him about 14 years ago,he has had 2 accidents at work,which have left him unable to work. I have seen his photo,and he has seen mine,and I find him very attractive,but he has a very low opinion of himself,and prepared to muddle along,whereas I have the motto of....he who dares wins! Yet I dont want to push him if he not ready...arrrrrrgggggggghhhhhhhh
2006-12-11 00:15:37 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No! Run run run run run.
2006-12-11 00:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Shall you carry on what? What's the question here? Doesn't sound like you two are a good match right now...are you willing to be his support system and accept that he may never decide to do anything other than muddle along? How much compromise are you willing to make, to settle for someone with no goals or ambitions?
Think hard about this before you end up wasting a chunk of your life, that you cannot get back, on someone that at this point you don't really know (but already know enough about to know he's unlike you).
2006-12-11 08:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why his wife left him ?? I think l would probably like to know why, but then again there is no harm in having him as a friend. You have only seen photo's of each other.He may not look at all like his photo now, so be prepared. I guess l would meet him and see how things go. Take it slowly though, he may be very shy and timid if he has very low self esteem. If you two seem to click, good but if not you will have to accept that you may only have just made a new friend and nothing more. Good luck
2006-12-11 08:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only thing you have to look out for is this 'low opinion of himself'. He may be 'high maintenance'.... as in he will be looking for constant reassurance that he is not worthless and such. That can get very tiring. However he could be the most loving person you ever came across because he is going to appreciate what he has and try everything in his power not to screw it up!
2006-12-11 08:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by SexyLady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say opposites attract. Why would you - who seems like a go-getter - want to be with someone who isn't taking care of himself? [Why hasn't he gotten a divorce yet? So he won't have to commit to anyone - including you.] You see this as a project to take on and you can fix it. It won't happen. It may change somewhat in terms of him doing it for you but not him doing things on his own. Understand why you think you can make him into something he doesn't see. You will save yourself some heartache and not have to learn your lessons the hard way.
2006-12-11 08:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by nochickenhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with this one. You are EXACT opposites, and you are already getting frustrated. AND he can't work, just wants to "muddle" along? You find THAT attractive? Don't go by looks, go by what you you said AFTER that, that's what's important here. You don't want to get into a 'pity' relationship..or do you?
2006-12-11 08:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not always he who dares wins. Once I dared jump off a cliff and I broke my neck. Rethink your daring decision and look else where for a partner, you give me the impression that your attraction to this man, is out of pity. Change your mind if you want a healthy life.
2006-12-11 08:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by markos m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay as far away from him and all his baggage as you can.....you are young and the two of you have nothing in common! This is a recipe for disaster......find someone without all the history and problems and someone who shares your views on life....he will NEVER be ready for the kind of relationship that you want.....stop all contact with this man and go live your life to the fullest....he sounds like he has stopped living....good luck
2006-12-11 08:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's usually not wise to "push" someone. I guess there's no harm in continuing your friendship but don't get tripped up in your fantasy and imagined emotion about this guy who sounds like he is not ready to "take the plunge". Such circumstances usually end up in disappointment.
2006-12-11 08:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound rude or anything.....but who wants a man that can't work? Once you get together...you would be doing all the money making. I would just keep it on a frienship level! Good luck!
2006-12-11 08:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by deezy89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prepared to muddle along, that annoys you already, do step carefully, and perhaps build his self esteem up and see how it goes, maybe you should back, back abit and also see what happens.........good luck and god bless, hope that all will work out for you in the end.
2006-12-14 01:10:07 · answer #11 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋