If one is born gay, does that justify it?

Question

I was born with an addictive personality and it is something i know i have and sometimes struggle with. Alcoholism flows in my DNA. Seeing how i was born an Alcoholic that doesnt seem to justify being one. Even if the only one i'm hurting is myself.

Answer 1

it mostly comes from your parents, my father is an acaholic, and so was his fathe, nd so was his father...it is mostly genetic nd how your brought up

try and go to some AA meetings because it is really hard for people around you to live with an acaholic

Answer 2

NO! Of course not. And you want to know why? Your question has an inherent flaw in it; it is based on a premise that is incorrect.

You ask "If one is born gay, does that justify it?", indicating that it is something which must be justified. That's like me asking "If one is born black, does that justify it?". Doesn't that belie a racist attitude within the questioner?

Do you see where I'm coming from? Just for the record, I don't believe that people are born gay and that sexuality is predisposed or even predetermined in the genes, but even if that's the way things are, it still isn't the way to go about this.

I cringe every time anybody makes a statement "Yeah, well, I was born that way." in response to criticism. Basically, it's saying "I know that how I live my life is terrible and awful and disgusting, but I had the unfortunate bad luck in life to be born this way, so please, just try to stomach it, because I didn't choose it, you know?".

That is not what sexual orientation is, any sexual orientation. Whether or not we are born that way is irrelevant; the strong, overlying message should always be that "We might have been born this way, but that's not why homosexuality/bisexuality/transsexuality/transgenderism is good; it's good and on equal footing with heterosexuality by its very nature. It is a mode of sexuality and love and self-identity that is healthy and natural.".

You simply cannot come into a question asking it like that, and moreover, you oughtn't cmpare a sexual orientation with a disease like alcholism.

Hope that makes sense.

Answer 3

I believe that I was born with a genetic predisposition toward alcoholism and homosexuality.

Societal factors determined whether these would come to pass for me or not.

The genetics behind alcoholism are pretty well proven scientifically...sexual orientation has been studied but not nearly enough. So it is merely my opinion at this point.


I don't see why it matters though. Even though I had a genetic excuse for my drinking I was still liable when I chose to drive drunk.

Whether I am gay because of genetics or choice I still deserve the same rights, privileges and responsibilities as any other taxpayer.

Answer 4

No it doesn't justify. The only thing that i know you cant change is if you have a certain disease that one you may be born with it but somethings like being gay or alcoholism you control it. You make a choice to do or not. Don't try to justify it because your parent did it so you have to be like them. You can change it all you have to do is believe in yourself and accept it is a problem you have not your parent.

Answer 5

Are you arguing genetics or morality? It is correct to say that alcoholics may or may not have a genetic disposition to becoming alcoholics just as one might say the same about someone born homosexual. However weather the act of either is socially correct has more to do with morals. One doesn't have to justify being born with homosexual tendencies only what their own moral opinion is of the behavior. Without a moral point of view one might argue that a heterosexual predisposition would be the negative choice.

Answer 6

You're not born an alcoholic. You may have a predisposition towards it, but you are not born with it. Anyway, being gay doesn't need to be justified at all. You say it like it's a bad thing, when it's just different.

Answer 7

Yes, we were born gay. However we do not have to justify being gay.
Being gay is not something we become or learn in later years. It is not a choice. (Who would choose to be the subject of hatred and ostrasization.

Perhaps a better question would be - Were the individuals who have spread their ignorance in their answers above, born as homophobic bigots or did they learn that trait from their parents. Or perhaps they merely chose to be ignorant and full of hate.

Answer 8

Alcoholics are always alcoholics, for one thing. For another, you're never hurting just yourself. If a gay person uses their sexuality to hide from the world, shirk their responsibilities, or withdraws socially (presumably excepting one partner), those are all "bad" things. By all means. But none is part and parcel of being gay; there's sex addiction and unhealthy relationships, either of which could happen to a straight person.

Answer 9

being born predisposed to drugs or alcohol is different than falling in LOVE or Being attracted to someone of the same sex. HOw you choose to hurt.poison yourself and your body is your business. The same way your private love life is your business.

Answer 10

Origins of being gay has always been a controversy between NATURE (genetics) and NURTURE (child rearing and environmental factors). What's really important is HOW YOU FEEL. If you feel you are gay, let it be. No one tells you what you should be or what you should not be, as long as you're not hurting others.

You make the script of your own life, and you draw your own destiny. Make your being gay an asset, rather than be pestered by it!

Answer 11

Please dont try to compare your illness to being homosexual. It isnt even a comparison. Being in love with someone, regardless of what sex it is, isnt hurting anyone nor is it hurting yourself. Your question is ignorant, and furthermore, whether you know it or not, you are trying to justify your addiction with this question. Continue to go to AA, quit trying to make others look bad because you are a mess.