im having bad thoughts that wont go away i keep being told to get better and i need to live but i cant see anything to live for all i want is my mom please help someone
2006-12-10 23:44:29 · 21 answers · asked by lucca 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i want to be with my mom and die to
2006-12-11 00:20:37 · update #1
Killing your self is a sin in Gods eyes and and you will not go to heaven to be with your mom. you well go to the other place. I know that maybe sounds harsh but it is true. so then you will be by your self just like you feel you are now. you need to live to keep moms memories alive
2006-12-11 07:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by careermom18 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. Try to be strong. I know 3 girls who lost both of there parents. The oldest was 11yrs the 2nd 8yrs and the youngest was 2 at that time. The oldest was the one who found her parents bodies at her living room. (The father killed the mom for cheating)Until this day she crys when she remembers.The only person whom they had was there grama who took care of them since they were small. The grama was like there mom. And know they lost there grama on july 2006. They are alone. The oldest who is now 19yrs is taking care of her two sisters. These girls have been thrue hell but them manage to continue with there lives. It will take a while but you'll be able to get over your moms death.
2006-12-11 09:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by lupe s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a hard road ahead of you. I just lost my father 3 months ago. I have a real hard time getting used to him not being around. Time will make it better, It won't happen overnight. The way I have been coping, excepting, it, is everything I do, I put him there with me as a silent bystander. I think, how would dad have done this. We just finished up hunting season for this year, My father and I have always been together for this event, I forced myself to go out and hunt this year. I just pretended dad was around. Its hard but, but its a fact of life. So to help cope with losing your mom, think of her as being there like a silent guardian. And go on with life as, she would want to see you going. Remember she is watching over you. Don't let her down!
2006-12-11 07:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by Speedbuggy43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I totally sympathise. My father was given eighteen months to live - fortunately that was 18 years ago and he's still here.
Your reaction is totally natural. I plunged into a very deep depression, at the age of 13. Who wouldn't?
If your mum does pass away, why not devote your life to making her proud, to honouring her memory? You obviously love your mum, so use your life in the best, most powerful way you can. Perhaps you could become active in medicine (natural or conventional), or in grief counselling, anything you can think of. Imagine the ways you can use your experience, as dreadful as it is, in a positive way.
It may be hard to see a way to do this now, but if you make it your life's work, you can only succeed.
This is exactly what I am doing now. After years and years of depression, bordering on psychosis, I am now turning my attention to helping other people to heal themselves.
I wish you all the very best, and if your mum must leave, I hope her passing is peaceful.
Love and honour her life with your own.
2006-12-11 08:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by Donna M 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like those people don't understand your pain, even if they want the best for you. Don't be afraid to tell them that it's not as easy as they think, just turning off your emotions. You have a right to grieve your loss. Noone can ever replace your mum. But she will be kept alive in your memories. Maybe try writing letters to her to tell her how you feel and how much you miss her. It might help to imagine that she can read them where ever she is in the next life. Remember that love never dies, and her love will remain with you forever. If you're not able to cope with day to day living because of the pain you're feeling, maybe a therapist will know of some ways to help you cope. It's their job to care, and they decided to do that job because they want to help people who are in pain, so don't be afraid to try to ask for help. They won't tell you to get over it. They will understand. I hope you find someone soon, because noone should have to suffer alone.
2006-12-11 07:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by AussieGrrrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, firstly please accept my condolances on your tragic loss.
The 1st few months of a parental loss is very traumatic (you have not said how old you are), you have not indicated what the bad thoughts are, so I will imagine the worse. whatever happened that was deemed bad cannot be changed, even if your mother had been alive, the best you could do is say sorry and it wont happen again. (or use it as a learning curve)
I am sure you have a lot to live for, but live for you not your mum, to carry on, use her wisdom, her strength and her LOVE for all those around her. IF you can follow her legacy you will be as a finer woman that she was.
It is not wrong to cry or mourn,
2006-12-11 08:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by dave c 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sympathies to you! Loosing one's mother is a reall tough one, and only time is going to heal you! But take note, that your Mum will be watching you, and as you go along each day, remember to do something that will make her happy. Just by trying this you ease that pain. Hurting yourself in anyway, is not going to benefit you. You will eventually feel your mother's love, as that is what she gave to you when she was here! It does get easier, but you have to make the effort to move on. It's hard I know ... but it honestly does get better! I find talking to my father in law, when I am having a problem, very comforting ..because deep down his answers are there still! All that your mother taught you and gave you, she wants you to use now! Take forth her lessons and live the life she wantsfor you! Happy and content. You will get there! Take Care.
2006-12-11 07:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by lynne 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Losing a parent is very hard. There supposed to be your rock and never leave you. But one day there gone. Its true that time will make it better, but you will always feel the loss. The only thing you can do is cry on as many shoulders as you can, talk about her, think about her, remember her, do things you know would make her proud. You will be able to move on in time. How much time you need is up to you, you cant be rushed. Different people deal in different ways and different times.
2006-12-11 07:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie I am really sorry about your mum but you have to be strong.Do try and get some counselling, ask about it at your surgery or you need to talk with some one like your local vicar (as much as that might not be acceptable to a lot of people) they are well trained to help. You know we will all have to go through sad losses in our lifetime and its hard but whatever their is always someone to talk to. God Bless and Be strong
2006-12-11 07:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Branded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss,and not sure how to go about this but please dont think of not wanting to live your mother would never want you to do that.I cant put myself in your position cos i have not been through this myself,but i know you will be hurting and missing your mum.Have you got family around you so you can talk to them and tell them how your feeling,they would be feeling exactly like you and would want someone to talk to as well.Hold your head up and think of all the good times you and your mum had, and think of the future and know your mums looking down on you. xx
2006-12-11 08:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by pinkdragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋