My bf abused me in june coz he saw me dancing with another guy. He broke up n told me im a cheap gurl along with abuses . then he stopped contacting me. But after a month he started contacting through text mesgs. Again not very pleasant mesgs. but now on 14th nov he again abused me as he kept asking me through text mesgs if i had gone on a date with another guy. But i kept silent and he again abused me through mesgs tht im a prosti**te. He told me he wants to slap me n abuse me . When 2 mesgs were sent by chance to him by me, He abused me n mesgd tht if another mesg i send...he will break my hands n abused me. Why does he abuse me???I replied tht im very much scared of him n to keep away from me . He considers me to be a very cheap gurl whereas i was with my parents when he thought me to be dating with some guy as his friends told him so.He only trusts his friends n they keep telling him im bad.NOW HE SENT 2 MESGS ON 2DEC.I MESG-HOW'S UR BF?2-I MAY B SILENT BT DEEP IN MY HEART I MISS U
2006-12-10 23:14:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You're a sweetheart child, and he's a friggin pig, he's got a few problems, jealously is one of them... he needs help and if he ever abuses you physically please don't hesitate to call the police. He wont ever stop doing it if you keep letting him. Take care of yourself, call you phone provider and change your number, get a restraining order against him. Carry on with your life and be happy. You will find someone that really loves you and will never hurt you mentally, or physically
2006-12-10 23:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by zelin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY dear I have been there done that and got the Tee shirt. If someone PUT THEIR HANDS ON YOU, you MUST file a POLICE REPORT! I know you are scared, oh well you have to walk thru your fear, This guy is a woman beater lower than a worm on the ground he is a coward be not afraid but do NOT be with him anymore, or agree under ANY circumstances to eet him somewhere as he obviously can kick your a s s . Please Change you email give ONLY friends you TRUST your new email, avoid this jerk, are you so ugly that you cannot get another bf?OF COURSE NOT ! But Let me tell you what abusers do, they isolate you from friends and family and those who will help you, the ones they do not want around you are those who give you GOOD feedback and postitive reinforcement (and also tell you when someone like this a s s is NO GOOD) Abusers tell you that you are cheap and ugly to make you lose self esteem, to make you dependent and because they have cut off your support systems you BELIEVE them, its a ploy, its a standard M.O. in the psych books and all, and my dear the abuse will GET WORSE, he might KILL YOU ONE DAY, if you have kids with him he MIGHT ONE DAY KILL YOU IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN , he may even kill the kids to hurt you. GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP STAY OUT OF IT, if you are lonely go volunteer your time reading to little kids or sick people at a hospital or convalescent home, volunteer at an animal shelter, do things to bring YOURSELF up. You do NOT want or deserve to be beaten and you ALREADY KNOW you are worth more than how this jerk is treating you or you would NOT be writing to ask this on yahoo answers, seek help call the cops, have NOTHING TO DO with this person, and if you still think that "deep in my heart I miss u" well then just think how much YOU will be missed when he KILLS you or CRIPPLES you or puts you in an irreversible coma, (oh btw, tell your family that you would like to donate your organs if you are killed by him in this way some OTHER person can benfit from what you wasted (sorry but sometimes the truth hurts I am being coldly bluntly honest because death by abuse IS cold and BLUNT). I saw a woman on Oprah the other day, she is all scarred up because her bf poured gasoline on her and lit her on fire, is THAT what you want for your future? Little Sister I have BEEN THERE I am speaking also from MY experience and from my heart to you, I spent many a night in the ER from DV. Now u listen to me; I killed MY abuser and now have a felony record that follows me where ever I go, although I should NOT have been convicted I am not the only woman that defended herself from an abuser only to be put in prison, but I am free now so I am not sorry I did it, (i was not in but a minute and he is dead forever), but you may not be so lucky many woman I was locked up with are doing much more time anywhere from 5 to 20 and it is NOT right or fair but this is what happens to poor and minority woman and even rich women, any woman.. there are judges who will have no pity trust me. Because you could have GOTTEN OUT before this happened is what they think, they do not understand that rarely does an abusive woman speak up to tell anyone this is happening because the abuser has filled us with so much shame and convinced us we did SOMETHING and that we actrually BELIEVE the beating s are OUR FAULT and we must deserve them and these are lies. But Now girl, you get away from this boy or man (he is NOT a man ) and start to LIVE again, and if you have to go ALL THE WAY TO COURT to get rid of him DO IT! good luck I am praying for your safety and that you make the right choices. good luck with your NEW life, statistics show that advice like this falls on deaf ears and most women return to their abusers, DON'T BE A STATISTIC ALIVE OR IN THE MORGUE , please.
2006-12-11 00:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men who abuse women as he's abusing you, won't change over night. Unless you enjoy being abused by him, I would suggest you block his text messages and get a restraining order. Abuse of this nature only grows, it doesn't stop. You don't want to end up hospitalized or worse. You're a good person and deserve better than to be hurt. Nobody deserves hurt. Take steps to protect yourself now and move on. There is somebody wonderful out there just waiting for you but you're over looking them because you're too involved in this mess you're in. Good luck to you!
2006-12-10 23:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by crazyjeans12000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abuse is just hate. It may have nothing to do with you or what you have done or will do. If you don't like what he's doing stay away & get somebody that is nice to you. Now if you tell him that you miss him you are telling him, What you are doing is something I will put up with. He may even think you want to have him do & say things like that to you.
CHANGE YOUR NUMBER. That is if you don't want to put up with his abuse.
Oh yea it don't matter if you did something or not. Talk to somebody at a woman's shelter they will help you deal with this sad sad person.
Good luck & be strong.
2006-12-10 23:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by ancestorhorse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
any way as you said he is ur bf but there is one thing you need to understand: in the world today making friends with opposit sex is like taking a risk why? b/cos satan is using this medium to lure youths into fornication and somany other evils.
but if am to advice you dont mind him take your stand be couragous and tell him bye........... bye.
tell hem you want the relationship to quit that you now want to make friends with people who have experience in life than you do people like you aunties etc.
2006-12-10 23:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by richy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a crazy lunatic. dont talk to him and ignore his messages. possibly change your phone number and if he ever gets close to you contact the police and get a restraining order on him so he cant get more than 200 feet close to you.
if i were you i would forget this guy alltogether cause if you get back with him chances are you will be sporting two eyes that will never require eyeliner cause they are allready black.
it just aint worth it
2006-12-10 23:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi,why do you keep asking the same Question???!maybe you've changed your name (ciendierlla right?) ,we gave you really good caring advice and serious replies so why are you doing this!
i hoped we heard from you about something else like i reported him,i changed my number ,i told someone in my family,but.. nothing!!
i know you need help,but we gave you what we can,he's a loser,get rid of him immediately!ok?
2006-12-10 23:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by Legend85 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you too stupid to change your email and message name? I think his "abuse" has injured your tiny little brain. And I'm sure you have been so sweet in innocent during all of this. Of course not abusing anyone at all, you being so sweet and everything. Yuck.
2006-12-10 23:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
may be he may contact u but in a bad way i guess
according to me u must stop the relationship with such a guy who can never undrstnd u...................but first if u wud like jus talk it over with him(not thru phone or mobile) that wud do gud..........................stilll if he does not beleive u, then jus leave him....do not attend his calls and messages.....luk for some body else who wud suit u and tell him all that happened...
2006-12-10 23:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by afi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for your sake i would hope you only to hear him through text msg. he could get real physical, he sounds like atypical control freak. if i were you i would do anything in my power to avoid contact.save your msg. as they could be used as evidence if anything happens be careful
2006-12-10 23:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by robert s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋