family problems?

Question

my brother is causing so many arguments between my family. he decided to go into my room n steal 250 pounds from my safe, to get a tounge pericing n his gf bday pres. my parents went made at the pericein cause a few years ago my older bro got it done n it swelled up n he could have died. they have told him he either takes it out or leaves. ( my parents arnt our real parents we were both adopted) n he says he doesnt care as they arent our real parents n that he wishes that we were all dead. he now has toldme that i have to chose between him n them, they only problem is that my adoptive parents have been my paretns since i was 3 n i am now 16. i love them to bits but i dont want to lose my brother as he is the only real family i have left. it is all over a tounge percing n i am in the middle. i need ideas of how to keep my family together. plz help

Answer 1

personally I think you should write this question again with the spell checker because it does not make any sense at all.

Answer 2

Don't beat yourself up over this. Your "brother" should have been charged for "stealing" your money. A little time behind bars might "wake him up"! You just stay where you are, love your parents, these are your "real" parents. I raised my 2 granddaughters since they were 1 & 2 yrs old. My beloved son, Stephen, their father, was killed by a careless driver. Please remember sweetheart, "chosen children" are a blessing from the Creator and Your Parents "chose you" and your bother. If he wants to be "pigheaded", let him, he won't be gone for long, if he even leaves. He has no respect, he stole from you, went against your parents wishes and now is being rediculous. Ask him this: "Do you need me to take care of you" or "if your going to leave, make sure you keep in touch"! Do Not give into him, or he will "control" you all your life. Stay safe, stay at home. Good Luck and have a very Merry Christmas.

Answer 3

As an adoptive parent I have a sense of dejavue here...
My eldest son was an angel until he reached his teens then BAM
he became this person full of angst and hatred towards us - accusing us of not being his real parents. We just weathered it out and hung in there knowing that this behaviour was the actions of a young man tresting our love to the limited. Sadly he had a youngern sibling who he also tried to drag into this - Please be strong YOU love your parents and your brother I know itys hard but TALKING really helps.
I do hope your parents are not too over protective with you both
but to be honest rules do need to be made by parents and yup teens do try to break them its a natural part of becoming an adult.
Why not have a quiet word with your mum or teacher - good luck
its not easy being in the middle of this - I will be thionking of you all.
PS just for your info My son who gave me so much grief is now
a great guy of 23 who i love to bits and we even laugh about his
traumatic teen years - he even now admits that he was a truly
nasty to us but couldntn help himself
Adopted or Naturally yours - your kids are the thing you get up for each day - the thing that brings a smile to youtr face and have a place in your heart no matter what

Answer 4

Could you try to explain to him they only went mad because they were scared for him, they were scared he would have an allergic reaction to the tongue thing. They care about him and now it sounds like its gone too far - that its not about the tongue any more, they can't back down ( part of being a parent - if they back down then they may have to again and they loose face) and he sounds like he can't back down because he now made an ultimatum. You could tell him how you feel, that you don't want to be a pawn and get caught between them, that you love them all. Could they all sit down together and talk about it like grown ups, maybe he could wear it when he goes out - but some people do have allergic reactions to things like that - it sounds like there may be more to it - we can't ever really know what goes on in someone elses thoughts. You could try calling Childline, there may be a councilling service that could help with the whole family. I'm sorry you feel so caught up. Good luck

Answer 5

You can only get family problems solutions from somebody whos been through it.Me?I done been through it all.If theres anything you treasure and your brother cant keep his hands from,let your parents keep it for you.If he's telling you to choose between parents and him,ask yourself,what is he without you and your parents.Exactly.He knows that you love him and thats taking advantage of you by intimidating your feelings.Your feelings are mutual so dont worry about those,he feels the same way for you but just acts tough.Forgive his thiefing your 250 pounds but lay down laws on him for next time.Dont seek revenge.

Answer 6

Put your foot down.

Tell him it is a hard world out there. You can't stick up for him all the time. think deep down what you want.

You have the safety of a very caring family and your brother is now kicking off.

I suggest you all sit down and talk. That way people can get things off their chests and you will know the outcome in front of everyone, best way.

Answer 7

go with the adoptive parents - any decent type of human wouldnt make you have to choose between them. He sounds flightly and unreliable and I think you'll end up in serious trouble if you pick him - he'll realise the error of his ways in time an come back to you crawling - even if it takes a few years - so pick the parents. xx

Answer 8

oh sweetie this soulnds like a real problem that you have got here. you havent said how old your borther is. although her really needs to take a look around and realise that he needs people more than he thinks. he needs to realise that there are people that care and that he really needs to grow up. he cant make you choose between them and him. thats not fair. i had to do that and its not an easy option. seek other help such as trusted friends and maybe talk to your adoptive parents about this. they will be able to help out!!

Answer 9

Probably an interesting question but far too long and with too much text language to bother reading all through to work out what you're getting at. Try it again in English sometime.

Answer 10

Tell Your Brother 2 Grow Up..If he wants 2 live in their home he'll go by their rules when he moves out put it back in just 2 keep the peace take it out..Just tell him when he's out & about put it in that way no one will know nothing lol.At least no one will be arguing
Good Luck

Answer 11

look´s like your big brother is only thinking about himself, & has no repect for you or your parent´s , he stole from you , and is making live hard for everybody . You hang on to your parent´s you love them & they love you, tell your brother to get a life , and stop making your´s hell, hope you have a nice Christmas