my brother is causing so many arguments between my family. he decided to go into my room n steal 250 pounds from my safe, to get a tounge pericing n his gf bday pres. my parents went made at the pericein cause a few years ago my older bro got it done n it swelled up n he could have died. they have told him he either takes it out or leaves. ( my parents arnt our real parents we were both adopted) n he says he doesnt care as they arent our real parents n that he wishes that we were all dead. he now has toldme that i have to chose between him n them, they only problem is that my adoptive parents have been my paretns since i was 3 n i am now 16. i love them to bits but i dont want to lose my brother as he is the only real family i have left. it is all over a tounge percing n i am in the middle. i need ideas of how to keep my family together. plz help
2006-12-10 22:59:53 · 8 answers · asked by samantha j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like you are a truly caring individual. This situation has caused you a great deal of pain, it's obvious. It's also obvious that you love your family and want what's best for all of them.
I was adopted when I was two, and I know where you're coming from. There is part of you that wants to please your family even more because they CHOSE you.
However, it is not up to you to keep your family together. At sixteen years of age, you can't carry that big of a burden. The adults must make that decision. You didn't mention how old your brother is, but if he is an adult, it may be time for him to be out on his own.
Your brother is going through a difficult time, and everything seems so painful right now. However, chances are, you aren't going to lose him long term. He's upset right now, your parents are upset right now, and you're upset right now. There is a lot of stress and hurt. Once things settle down, your family's bond will heal these wounds.
He is going to understand one day that your parents are doing what they're doing out of love. Until then, tough love may be what he needs. Let your parents do what they think is best for him, and trust that one day he's going to understand their actions.
Until then, you're in my thoughts and prayers.
Blessings,
JustanAngel
2006-12-10 23:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by justanangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 04:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and innocent your brother is your true family and also your adoptive parents you are registered as adopted and become their family. Think of it, they adopted you for how many years. Caring a small girl at that age is very difficult. Please advice your brother to be nice and respect your parents. At the end, you will come to realize it when you grow up and have a family too. Regret always comes last remember.
2006-12-10 23:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Vivs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is going through some major problems.
They are his problems, which he has to sort out on his own.
It wouldn’t be fair of him to expect you to choose.
Let him know that you love him very much and he will always be your brother, you will never write him off. But you’re not choosing.
You’re staying where you’re being taken care of.
You can’t afford to go out on your own.
It’s not fair of him to throw the ball in your court.
If he wants to leave, he must leave, but the choice is his, not yours.
That way he has to decide.
Not you.
He’s not being fair towards you.
I think deep down inside all he really wants to know is do you still love him.
With everything that’s happening he might not feel loved right now.
But what ever you do don’t move out the house.
2006-12-11 00:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by Louw D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... well, you've got a big problem right their my friend. on my own opinion, i should stay with the couple who have adopted you for you are in the good hands... well, lets put it in this way, if you go with your brother, what future the both of you would face? would he be responsible enough to support the every needs you want as his brother? would he be kind enough to let you have what he got everytime? would he be good enough for you as a brother? let him realize that he is wrong. i know that it takes time but it would be the right choice for you. i'm not saying that you'll leave him behind. all i want you to know is do the right thing. do what is best for your family. make a decision that you wouldn't regret in your life. just think positive! take care...
2006-12-10 23:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by jonamae_love_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u wanna keep ur family together, then try one of these activities. I'm not sure it'll work though:
U could maybe try and get them to talk to each other, or u can plan a dinner, or u can plan a vacation between them. U can also do something for them that they both have in common. Sorry if this stuff doesn't work. O_O
2006-12-10 23:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by clandestine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your brother? If he is of age sweetheart you need to make sure that there isnt an underlying problem such as drugs. I dont know what you are referring to in pounds I am hoping that you are from England and its money. But you need a home and you cant leave your home if it is where you are safe and taken care of. Your brother has a lot of growing up to do. If you need to talk to someone email me and I will talk to you but please dont put yourself in the position that you might be living on the streets with your brother.
2006-12-10 23:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by kort 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably an interesting question but far too long and with too much text language to bother reading all through to work out what you're getting at. Try it again in English sometime.
2006-12-11 00:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋