I always thought that when she got a bf she would grow out of it, ore be shamed out of it, but shes a bit sloppy... and just lets him see her smelly mess. I hate it, but I hate conflict evenmore. How can I encourage her to take more pride in her personal grooming and her room?
2006-12-10 22:56:28 · 5 answers · asked by askauntkt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
perhaps her personal hygiene is fine and you are just finding reasons to pick on her. you may think her mess is disgusting but at least it is not dirty nor in your living spaces. So let her live her life and you live yours.
Another thing you could try would be letting her go shopping and buy things that will make her feel good! try that one
2006-12-11 15:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by woopsy44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU know you can tell her all day she's not going to listen to you .You know what it's going to take some boy to tell her then she will hear what you've been trying to tell her.Just wait one day she will see the light.She may be trying to fool you to make up for what you don't know.What part do her mom have in this or do you have a lady friend that she won't listen to?Take her to bath &body work tell her to get what she wants.this may do the trick.other wise tell her to clean herself up people dont want to smell a young lady like this .Help her now or she'll pay for it later.Dont think it's your fault she's just acting out in a very bad way good luck! Most fathers have problems like this give her more love and spend more time with her!She may be crying out for help get to know her better.See if their is a promblem you dont know about .ASK QUESTION get deep you may get to the promblem with out knowing what has happend to make do or dont do the things she needs to keep up with.I have a son the same way,I 've been working on him for a while now that He's dating it's getting better.take care.
2006-12-10 23:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by lorraine B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are like that even older ones but it will become worst and becomes a sickness. I watched in Oprah Show about people piling up things until they don't have any space in their house any more. Even the family were ashamed of it. How - they confronted a psychologist and the person were cured about it.
2006-12-10 23:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Vivs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is running around with trash it doesnt matter to her what she smells and looks like. If she meets someone, (you do not say how old she is) and they end up dropping her because of this problem maybe she will wake up. As far as the conflict goes remember who the parent is and who the child is. If she lives under your roof and you support her tell her to shape up or hit the road. The problem today with kids is the parents let them have their way so they do not have to deal with them. She is going to be like this the rest of her life unless she starts to change NOW. Yes I was a parent. My children are grown now, and I fought this battle also, but now they thank me for being stern with them and have told me more times then once. It sounds cold hearted, but believe me, it's for their best interest. I know you will and I will also get emails telling me I am a SOB, but sometimes you got to do what you got to do. Is there a Dad around? Maybe she needs a wake up call, and believe me it will not hurt her to get one.
2006-12-10 23:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother
2006-12-11 15:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by football genius 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋