I am 36yr old govt. servent guy living in delhi. I have two marriage proposals. I have not seen any of the two girls. Suggest me whom should I chose to marry. Here are the details:-
First Girl is 31yrs old, EXTRA SLIM, wheatish colour, completed M.A. in sociology from furrakhabad (UP), cannot write even her bio-data in English but she knows how to perform mostly household works , her fmly is even ready to make marriage arrangements in my city. She as well as her family members is also taking care of us i.e.BEHAVES VERY POLITELY. Yesterday her family members visited our home and her elder married brother requested me again and again to consider seriously about her (his sister) and when I said that she is extra slim, he said that although she is slim, she is (health wise) fit. He even said that if we like she could even undergo any medical check-up.
Second Girl is 24yrs old, Seem Perfectly Healthy, Fair Colour, doing M.A., also teaching primary classes in a local English medium school. Her family is well educated. Her father says I have nothing to give as dowary. Her family DOES NOT EVEN SHOW ANY CARING GESTURE. Her father and family doesnot compromise at any point (even to change marriage venue to my city as it will be costly affair for us to go to brides town and perform celebration there).
What my sis thinks is that it will be better to marry the second girl as she is young and because of this will conceive soon after marriage in comparison to aged girls who generally get many complications but the problem is there fmly members are rude
Kindly think twice i.e. seriously as this is a turning point for my life and suggest whom should we choose out of the two proposals. Kindly reply soon before 14th Dec.06
2006-12-10 22:44:33 · 12 answers · asked by mydelhifriend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear friend, choose the first girl. The family does matter .And it does matter a thousand times. You are not going t live in an island. You have to mingle with her family members .Insult amounting to a little bit is enough to spoil the sweetnessof married life.
2006-12-11 00:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Reasonable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have no other choice than this two ladies, then i think you should choose the one which has the most similarities with you... like interests, lifestyle, etc. ..
but do remember, 31 year old is not old.. :) being extra slim does not mean she's unhealthy.. she might just have high metabolism rate. thats all :) and her family is willing to have the marriage in your city, and they're nice people..
as for the 24 year old, she seems perfect, BUT you are getting married, which means your family and her family will be one. by what you've said.. her family doesn't care much.. think twice. maybe you haven't know them properly.. or maybe they're just like that. you should do your own investigation and come up with your own answer.
all the best!
2006-12-10 23:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by pinkdoughnuts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider how the other family members treated you and each other.
Don't expect the apple to fall too far from the tree.
If the girls were raised in a caring environment then they more than likely will have a caring environment with you.
2006-12-10 23:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
31 isn't old - women generally have no problems giving birth in their early 30's. I personally would choose whichever one seems to have more in common with your interests, since you'll be in this person's company (and their family's) for a long time. It's hard to say, though, as I'm not from the same culture.
2006-12-10 22:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 31 the first woman should still be able to conceive without any problems and you will also have more in common with her because the age difference is less. so id say if your decided on an arranged marriage then go for the first one.
2006-12-10 23:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just by reading your answer, it would seem that this is nothing but a wind up! The practice of "dowry" has been outlawed in India since the 1960's, and you could be placed in jail for demanding it. What you really need is a maid and a prostitute to fulfil your needs, as you do not view a wife (or potential wife) as a human being.
2006-12-10 23:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by ilovebuttonmoon 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would stay single before I would marry someone who I didn't know. I know it is your culture, but how can you possibly spend the rest of your life and have children with someone who you know nothing about? What kind of wife will she be, what kind of mother, what kind of friend, what are her aspirations, what do you have in common, etc? If I didn't know the person was of high quality and would have my best interest as I would have hers, I couldn't do it.
2006-12-10 22:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The long list itself looks like a shopping list. Goods have a used by date. I hate to think that you look at it as you would shopping. Suggest you take neither. Find more about yourself. Grow up before you can include someone in your life.
2006-12-10 22:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by Tom Cat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you really have to choose out of the two? why dont you try LOVE MARRIAGE? if you do that you wouldnt have to ask and choose...after all, you will be sharing your whole life with that someone and from my point of view, LOVE is the best thing that must be present at the ALTAR when you exchange your I DOS'.
2006-12-10 22:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by bea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the woman that's 31 , she wont have troubles conceiving and she will have more in common with you ! her family also seems more of home type !
good luck
2006-12-10 23:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by lelanilama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋