2006-12-10 21:39:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what hurts me so is his affair with another women, but i can't leave because i have 5 young sons and daugters, i'm triying to work for a long time every day in order to keep busy & earn money so that i can be independent , still i have a sorrow inside me that keeps me depressed
2006-12-10 22:18:24 · update #1
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2006-12-10 22:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep working, know that this is not your falt, and that we have no control over the other person. don't ignore them confront him, unless he is an abuser. in that case it is never good to stay with someone like that. why wait until he brings a disease to your bed, or he causes u to have a nervous breakdown. when we fail to address problems, and keep them in theres a good chance of becoming depressed, sometimes there is no answer but to leave with your dignity. he needs to know how u feel about it, and how much this is hurting u, if he doesn't really care than he doesn't care about you. best to move on if thats the case, get child support and keep working.
2006-12-11 19:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sorry you're having a bad time...
If your husband is cheating on you,do you have it in your heart to forgive and forget or will it come up everytime you're having an arguement?
If your husband is abusing you,whether it be emotionally or physical,do you have the patience to put up with it,continue forgiving until it breaks down your selfesteem and leaves you in depression?
I cannot answer your question,only you know how you feel and where you stand.Only you can make the decision to do whats right for yourself from whats in your heart.Keep your head up and goodluck...
2006-12-11 07:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be strong & leave!
My mum stayed around waiting & waiting for things to change & to get herself set up before she could leave when my dad cheated on her the first time. He saw this as a weakness & played on it - your husband is scum for cheating. Once a cheater always a cheater. For the sake of your kids you need to leave.
There is so many services to help women like you in the situation you are in. Plus family & friends.
You are not doing anyone any favours by staying & waiting to get some money together.... especially your kids. My mum staying with my dad made things worse, in the end i begged her to leave him! I was 8!
Be strong honey & show him how strong & independant you are - i bet he doesnt see it coming! You deserve to be happy & so do your kids!
lots of love to you & your kids & Good luck with everything :O)
2006-12-11 06:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by kirstymarie21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring your husband`s problems is not the answer.
Try discussing what is "hurting" you with him in a calm and composed manner.
Talk about it. Discuss it at length and then take it from there.
Do you love your husband? Enough to stand by him regardless of his "problems"?
We all have issues & problems and hurdles to overcome. Your husband certainly is not the only one.
Are you telling us that you don`t have your own personal demons to confront on a regular basis?
What an amazing woman you must be!
If discussing matters with your husband is not enough, do not hesitate to seek professional help.
Best of luck to both of you!
2006-12-11 05:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sort out these problems with ur husband and try to compromise take some steps backward by urself and ur husband should take some, then u should be a happy couple... Think about the beautiful side of ur husband.
2006-12-11 05:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he knows he hurts you? Talk to him and let him know that it hurts you just pretending to ignore doest mean it will go away.Either get some help or move on.
2006-12-11 06:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep saving money. Then sue for divorce, custody, and child support.
2006-12-11 07:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need more info.
2006-12-11 05:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you knew he had them to begin with love him for who he is or leave
2006-12-11 05:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by PASSION 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋