my husband has issues he lies to me about alot of things like online activity with women and other personal issues... it seems he doesnt want to get a job.. and help with the house costs and kids.... and his family just encourages all his actions and behavoirs not to metion dislikes me in many ways then one....... im not the catholic school girl they wanted him to be with i believe. he rude to me and im mean rude he lies says he going to bed and goes online to talk and get sexual arsoual from women . gives them our house number to call him ect.... i cater to him ,movies.......dinners order out...... gas.... rent money....cable online..phone ..sex.....everything... and seems hes has issues respec ting me as a person and the mother of his childern. so am i wrong to cut him completeyl off money wise and sexual? im a pretty women i dont have a prob getting a man.. he knows this.but thinks i wont do it or ill fall withouthim. is not giving anymore good for me to do at this time.
2006-12-10 20:28:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Crissy...As Dr. Phil would say..."What were you thinking?". It's pretty obvious this can be a one sided message, or maybe not. As I haven't heard from his side. But, soley on what you are describing, you live in an emotionally abusive relationship. I would leave it to you to seek a better way of life either through a counselor. I'm a guy, I was married to a woman who was the same way. I put up with it for 3 years. She is gone now, and I couldn't be happier. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-10 20:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by JAY S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much explained it already. She was warned; she didn't care to listen; and now she's refusing to accept responsibility for adding to the problem that caused the cheating. Well, she's spoiled and selfish just like you said. I have a hard time believing she will be ok with you showing her this that you said about her because woman are sensitive, and I'm sure she is not very happy with men in general right now. Bottom line is that what she did was wrong, and what he did was wrong. Two wrongs don't make a right. Neither of them should have did what they did, but it's over and done with now. What matters most from here on out is what they decide to do in the future. If she continues to blame everyone else for her problems and avoid responsibility, she will continue to be unhappy no matter who she is with. Perhaps someday she will grow up. Who knows.
2016-05-23 04:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been putting up with this? And why?
If he isn't working, then tell him to get a job or get out. It sounds like you can support yourself and the kids, so you don't need him around mooching off of you.
Anything you don't use, you shouldn't support just for his benefit. If you don't use the car he uses, then stop giving him money to put gas in it. Don't get any movies unless you want to watch them too. You should take the kids and you out to dinner and let him sit, tell him when he can help support the family, he'll be allowed to join the family.
You can end the cyber sex by pass wording the computer so that he can't even get on it, let alone the net, without knowing what it is.
2006-12-10 20:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong.Give him a lesson ,maybe you're spoiling him.
If he will not change,if he just let you do everything and he just playing with women on the internet,giving phone number to women to call him,doesn't work and lazy...hahaha it sounds like he is very lazy bug...hahaha sounds like he doesn't respect you as a wife and he doesn't help you..Give him a lesson and a chance to realize,If he will not listen or nothing change,,,,DONT WASTE YOU TIME!..You said you're pretty,you have work and what are you waiting for?Time start now.....Think what is better for you and your child.Think first before you decide because you're the only person who knows him well........take care
2006-12-10 20:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by Belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have been carrying the weight of the family - with him there, so you can do it without him there! Cut him off, kick him out, & move on with your life.
You are allowing him to live this way with you. You can't make him do anything, but you can make choices for yourself and your children.
he's insecure & wants you to feel insecure along with him... as for his family not liking you... I wouldn't worry too much about that & maybe they don't approve of his lifestyle. If he doesn't respect you, its not very likely he's family is going to respect you either... just how family works... right or wrong
2006-12-10 20:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now im tempted to say, leave the a$shole!!
But he is the father of your kids, and i assume these are recent issues, right ?
You should probably talk to him and tell him he's not getting any kitty until he straightens up. And the only reason I think you should tell him first and not just do it, is because he may feel resentful and run to those "virtual" hoochies he's been talking to.
2006-12-10 20:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by SweetMahogany 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont do that cuz its going to irritate him although it's the sensible thing to do...
ask him straight up if you're doing anything wrong and if you can fix it or smooth it over with him. is it work? money? boss? yourself? family problems? parents?
if he wasnt like this before the marriage, something has happened to make him like this. its okay if he doesnt want a sit down talk with you. just ask him when he passes by you or just talk to him when he's sitting down eating or something like that. if he really is doing all these things and wont change, try going to a marriage consultant that can help you. good luck!
2006-12-10 20:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by fefe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
seems like you have hit the end of the road with him. Think ... what you are going to do is going to have some serious impact on your kids, make a smart choice... I know it won't be easy - take care ! At worst: Pray !!
2006-12-10 20:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say in your profile that you are single and a mom. Where did the husband come from?
Do the man a favor and cut him off.
2006-12-10 20:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good idea. He seems to think you're a pushover. Stand up for yourself, and good luck!
2006-12-10 20:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋