I really hate my ex husband whom we separated six years ago. We tell each other that we dont love each other and so on. Every time he sees me he has to touch me tries to make me feel jelous by doing weird things with his girlfriend. I dont give him any attention. But its beginning to bug me. Guys plis tell me why he is behaving like that and yet he tells me that he doesnt want me and that he has moved on. Why does he still want to be my pal?
2006-12-10 19:15:57 · 21 answers · asked by cathylisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to realize that he's your ex and six years is too long of a time to still be carrying on with him. This relationship is long passed over with and except for any legitimate reasons, say for instance children or support money owed to you, there should be no reason for any contact between you two. This guy hasn't the slightest desire to be your "pal". What his behavior displays is a sick twisted desire to humiliate and torment you. This abuse is so unbelievably degrading. How come, after all this time, you are starting to feel "bugged" about it? He behaves like this because you let him get away with it. Shame on you for letting him get to you for so long! All he is doing is provoking you and pushing you around. It's no wonder you hate him so much. The anger and rage seething inside must be eating you up alive. This creep has no business touching you or putting his filthy hands on you. You have every right to defend yourself. Vent your emotions. What he needs is a good punch in the eye or a slap in the face. So give it to him and give it to him good and hard! Don't hold back and don't be afraid or embarrassed. Stop taking his garbage. It's long over due for you. Get a hold of your self respect. Cease contact with him and move on with your life.
2006-12-10 20:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very difficult to put Humpty Dumpty back again, but there's no reason you can't vacation as a family and see how it goes. You don't have to bunk with him and I suggest you not. Have some time together in a casual way and see how it goes. Just don't expect too much and don't rush the issue. It would be a good idea for the two of you to go to counseling together if a discussion comes up about reuniting on a permanent basis. Just take it slow and easy. Be cautious.
2016-05-23 04:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well does he behave badly towards you or does he want to be your pal?? Either way, you two have sexual tension between each other! Cause if you two didn't care about each other any more he wouldn't try to make you jealous and you wouldn't care....at all! You wouldn't even notice the sh!t he does with his gf!
Remember this.....He is your "ex" for a reason!!! Go on with your life.
(I've been there, just don't look back anymore!!)
Good luck!
2006-12-10 19:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by DREAMY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your x-husband sounds alot like the man I'm separated from now. He may be going through depression and in need of antidepressant medication. Your x-hubbie is weak and finds you to be strong. He's trying to hang on to you emotionally-and he seems to have you. Continue to seek answers to questions you may have concerning this situation because you will become strong enough to break away from this emotional wreck of a relationship. Heal Heal Heal in all aspects of your life, then you will move on up the ladder and he'll still be down there trying to hold on to you.
2006-12-10 19:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by trinity4life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, if he makes you jealous, then he probably wants you back. Either that or he thinks that you still want him and therefore he tries to make you jealous in order to hurt you.
I think you should be with another guy. Don't think about your ex. Focus your attention on other things which make you happy.
You mentioned that you don't pay him attention but that it's beginning to bug you. So ask yourself now why it's bugging you.
2006-12-10 19:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs Brandon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like HE NEEDS to try and make you feel small and insecure... And he doesn't want to be your pal, from the sounds of it...
If you have no reason to stay in touch (like kids), then stay away from wherever he happens to be... Don't give him the satisfation of a response... And if he continues, try hitting on his new girlfriend... ;)
2006-12-10 19:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he tries to touch you, and other things, mean that he hasn't completely moved on. He stills wants you and do "things" with you. If you have moved on, ignore and keep moving on. If you haven't moved on, it looks like you still have a chance to try to make your marriage work, which is unlikely.
2006-12-10 19:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by Dumbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i'm not a guy, but the answer is because he's a jerk. if you two don't have kids together, just cut him out of your life, what are you waiting for? if you have kids, it's still okay. compliment him and his girlfriend and tell them how happy you are for them that they have finally found each other. never talk bad about him or her in front of the children, they will figure it all out on their own soon enough. kids are smart.
2006-12-10 19:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idiot lied and he's trying to win you back BUT out of desperation he doesn't know what to do, so end up doing all this funny things.
You dont have to join him in his silly games by ingoring him, you have already won the battle.
Congtras.
2006-12-10 19:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rosy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds twisted and very immature, probably why he acts the way he does. He probably told his new interest that you still want him. Why do you still go around him? I'd avoid him and keep ignoring him he obviously has no respect for you or his new girlfriend.
2006-12-10 19:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋