I want to help them but they just refuse help. ????
2006-12-10 19:14:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sorry.Leave them alone.Learn to detach with love,if you do not,you wll be the one who hurts(you may be alraedy),and then you can't be helpful to those who really WANT your help.Good luck.
2006-12-10 19:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How close are you to that person, and how far along in the depression are they? Refusing help is a sign of depression, too, I think. You're not a miracle-worker, but if the two of you are close, I'd ask a therapist what help you can offer.
What I believe is that what you say and do does register with a depressed person, though it may not seem to. Suggestions to take an anti-depressant, to get counselling, offers to go places, phone calls and morale-boosting all have a cumulative effect. You can't push too hard and not all at once, but if i were you, I'd stay in the picture, if even very gently.
2006-12-11 03:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by Habt our quell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason why the large majority of depressed people are in the states that they are is because their mind functions in a particular way - they resort to "circular thinking" where A affects B, which affects C, and so forth. This can be applied to most if not all life situations - if my current situation is emotionally hollow, then I'm bringing others down with me in the process, therefore I am detrimental to the enviroment around me. One thought affects others and form a kind of "snowball effect" - a problem that might have been previously managable just seems far too big to tackle.
This is why the depressed people you are interacting with do not want help, they think it is unrealistic they can gain any sort of help due to their tendancy to think in a circular manner. I would encourage you to be constructive - do not try and fix all their problems, insead, try and get at the root of the larger ones. In doing so, the rest of their problems - and their outlook - will become much better.
2006-12-11 03:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by spark.natural 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could get them to a good therapist or go for a counselling course for depression-helpers. Depends what your qualification is. Depression is not just cured or helped. It takes time and knowledge and medication. Just being there and supporting the person can help a bit, but that's not enough unfortunately!
2006-12-11 03:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by oli4p 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but what makes you think that they need your help? I get depressed some times, but not a major case and I hate it when some people believe they can help me. The thing is, you won't be able to help since all they will hear from you will be criticism and hate against them. Unless they like you, they will never accept your help. I, myself, only let people close to me to help me if I need something during these periods. If they refuse, then they are not too close to you. Don't feel bad, because some depressed people do not allow closest people to attach to them during certain situations.
2006-12-11 03:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by wat~ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have found all you can do is be supportive and a good listener. If the person is suicidal or self-harming or at risk of either of these behavours then call your local mental health centre and seek help for them. Maybe distraction is a way to go..ie go for a walk or out for a coffee
2006-12-11 03:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
basically there is no direct way to help depressed people, by direct i mean face to face talk, that just doesn't seem to work.... what you could do is help that person realize that theres more to life.. like for instance he/she may be depressed cos he got dumped, so just take him/her out and do something he/she (some physical activity is recommended), try not to bring up that subject.. give it some time......but be cafreful not to drive urself crazy by helping this person ... im not an expert or anything.. but this has worked a few times...gudluck
2006-12-11 03:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
these things have been proven to help:
get them to exercise with you- releases endorphins.
get them out of the house- socializing helps too
sunlight is useful for some types of depression so go outside!
better yet, combine all three and have an outdoor picnic and play frisbee, volleyball or baseball with a group of friends.
2006-12-11 03:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard thing to talk to someone who thinks that he/she lives in life full of ****.
Try to talk to them as if they are normal people, as if they are not depressed. But if they start moaning and complaining,say something good about them, about their character. If doesn't help, you can use some stronger ways
2006-12-11 03:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ziyoda 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't deal with them; you live with them and help them get out of the depression. http://www.relationship-affairs.com/Depression.html
2006-12-11 06:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by Sofia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋