2006-12-10 18:55:39 · 8 answers · asked by POOH69 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
TALK, TALK, TALK! Communication is the key to every relationship.... Best of wishes!
2006-12-10 18:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by *Tee*Tee* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn his hearing aid up maybe?? ;) j/k
Without knowing all the details, I'd say it's a matter of Communication and Variety.
Communication - Men don't read minds, and we're notorious for having a narrow field of vision (both literally and figuratively). So, as a novelty, try TALKING to him - make a time when nothing else is going on, and talk to him. This way, there are no distractions and nothing to rush off to in the middle.
Variety - Do something to get out of any ruts you are in. If your life is like a schedule, then do something different to help spice it up. It doesn't have to be 'red hot' (though red hot is good), just out of the ordinary for the night of weekend. Get him to return the favour for you at a later date. (I'm not saying you forget your lives, just that it's easy to let the humdrum get to you...)
While these aren't specific solutions, I'm sure you can make it work...
(And ignore dopey and his "why aren't you married yet". It's your life, not his...)
2006-12-10 19:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm...
First off, try the shoe on the other foot...are YOU as attentive as YOU were 13 years ago? Prob. not in the same way, and maybe that is his situation too.
People change and so do their likes and dislikes, needs and resources, and associations.
For couples to survive it usually requires that they are moving in the same direction (not nec. on the same road..just with similiar life goals).
Given that, it is the variation between these paths that either provides the glue that binds them or the wedge that separates them further.
You need to examine what courses you both have set. After you do that little bit of introspection, sit down with him and have a heart to heart.
Bringing a couple of bottles of wine for AFTER the heart to heart wouldn't hurt either.
good luck.. whichever way it turns out.
2006-12-10 19:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by ca_surveyor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are saying 13 years? That sounds funny. And you are talking of your boyfriend and not your husband, or they don't marry there? When will you marry after waiting 13 good years? How old are you? Are you not getting old?The only thing you should do is either you get marry or you continue wasting years.
2006-12-10 19:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by patrick w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poeple change.. =)
it takes two to tango.. =)
ride along with his change. monotony in the relationship makes it a lot more boring. have some shifts while maintaining the love.. =)
changing isn't bad, it another way of saying, "hey, look i found a new need. can we go through this together?" it is a silent call for a shift, for a change.
dance with him, not argue.. =)
2006-12-10 19:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by ayvann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say. But did you love your boyfriend just coz he was physically attractive or was there something more that appealed to you in him . If it was only physical attraction, i am sorry to say tht ur relationships are shallow.. there is something called as Commitment in a relationship..someday u ll become old and unattractive. should your husband/boyfriend leave you just coz of that???
ask yourself.
2006-12-10 19:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Girish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to start from new... I am sorry to say that, but this is really what I believe is to be done.
2006-12-10 18:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
add another year of patient, if your boyfriend truly loves you, later you will reap the goodwill.
2006-12-10 19:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by cute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋