My boyfriend and I were having problems and I broke up with him. A couple of weeks later he asked me to marry him (ring and all) and I said no because I had moved on and I was dating other people. Now I am having regrets about this. We were together for 6 years. I know he still loves me and we still talk. Do you think I should just tell him I made a mistake, or maybe ask him to marry me instead?
2006-12-10 18:23:31 · 17 answers · asked by mimi g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you said you moved on, so what changed. how can you move on and go back. technically a ring given is with the agreement you are to provide a service called marriage. you cannot get ring back. it is the mans. this was quoted from dear Abby as well. you dint marry him you don't get it back.perhaps you 2 need counseling before the thought of marriage as you said you moved on. so all of a sudden you made a mistake what if he has moved on now? you 2 need to talk about what all and why it had problems before you 2 can go forth in that direction
2006-12-10 18:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back and apologise to him and tell him you have thought about it and maybe he dropped the bomb too fast which scared you and made you turn heel and run. Tell him you love him and after much thought realized that you do love him and you would love to be his bride and to share his life with him. Make him a wonderful meal and make yourself attractive and beautiful for him.
Good advise is to think before you speak. We all make the mistake of being too outspoken without mulling a thing over and giving it deep thought first. You do have the right to think first and then reply and if you are not sure rather say: "Please I love you very much and I just need a day or two to think this th\rough. I have to be sure, so please give me the chance to be sure!" If he loves you he will wait for you.
Shame he must have taken a big step in faith to go and buy the ring and propose to you. Guys dont do things like that easily. Tell him you are so sorry that you hurt him. You did not mean to hurt him that way and try to soften the hurt. He must have felt so wretched poor thing.
There is still a chance. Dont take too long!
Go get your man!!!!
Best of luck with your future together.
2006-12-10 18:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you were having problems ... but you didn't say what they were about.
If you moved on, it was because there was something in the relationship that wasn't working. If you tried to resolve it and talked it out with him, but couldn't compromise, or see eachother's point of view ... it was for the best that you moved on.
Maybe the new guys you met didn't stack up to your old boyfriend, but that doesn't mean you should go running back to him, because obviously you left him for a reason.
You're having regrets because you miss the comfort of a relationship. You mentioned he still loves you ... but you never mentioned loving him ... so you have to ask yourself that question and be honest with yourself ... otherwise getting back together would be a waste of both your time and emotional investment.
Not to mention the possibility of missing out meeting your real true love.
2006-12-10 18:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by GRNeyzNYC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like you know what you want..you say it has only been a couple of weeks yet you started dating others..no I don't think your ready for marriage or even a commitment...until you know what the heck you want....myself if I loved someone so much I wouldn't be dating others after a couple of weeks...six years is a long time...
2006-12-10 18:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your having regrets that means you still love him allot. So i suggest that you should talk more, start going back on dates, and see if he will pop the question again, and this time say what your heart feels like saying
2006-12-10 18:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by alvin c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never,ever ask a man to Marie you.If you really are a woman,you make him ask you again.Build up your relationship again.Work on your problems and get close to him again.Then slowly start taking about family,house and how many kids you would like to have some day.If you ask him and he says no,Then what?You'll regret asking for the rest of your life.
2006-12-10 18:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Admit to the mistake and see where it leads would be a start do not rush straight into that with out discussing what happened first, so he will believe your serious! Wish you lots of luck. You needed to make sure and I'm glad you know now!
2006-12-10 18:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IF your sure that's what you really want then you should talk to him, but keep in mind you did reject him and I'm sure hurt him a lot so don't be surprised if you don't get a good response at first. Might take him awhile to trust that your not going to change your mind.
2006-12-10 18:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is any reservations just move on... don't get deeper into a relationship if you dont want to be a part of it. As for the ring it really depends on if he want you to just keep it after that...if neither one of you want it...I'LL TAKE IT!
2006-12-10 18:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel that you want to be with him...not just for some other reason like being afraid of being alone...but because you really love him. Be honest with him and tell him that you want to be with him. See how he responds. If he doesn't say anything about it right away, just ask him yourself. Good luck.
2006-12-10 18:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by graduatecj08 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋