My fiance and I will be getting married soon. I have 2 small children (2 and 4). His mother owns a 2 bedroom trailer and has offered for us to take over payments and move in with her. She would have 1 room. We would have the other room. and eventually we would build on another room for my daughters. My sister says that being newly married and moving my children into the house with his mom would be a grave mistake and would ultimately cause the demise of our marriage. What do you think?
2006-12-10 18:22:26 · 10 answers · asked by reowrrrr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Uh, no. Moving into a trailer is a bad enough, but with the mother in law too and two daughters?? No. Bad idea.
2006-12-10 18:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i think it all comes down to .. in what state is your finances at the moment ..?? , if its not to bright right now , and you guys need a place to stay for a while , then it might be the right decision .. BUT , on the other hand , if you move in and after a few months or so has the funds to get a place of your own , things might .. and i say MIGHT , go the wrong way .. she might say that all the sudden her place ain't good enough any more , and things could get messy .. for ones your in it always hard to get out again .. , but thats just my view .. hope you guys get a solution for your problem .. good luck and keep well .
2006-12-11 02:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO don't do it. No house is large enough for two familes. Seriously you and your fiance will still be trying to settle in with each other and the mother in law will make it a living hell on all of you. You will all get on each others nerves and it could cause problems that will last a very long time if not forever. DO NOT do it.
2006-12-11 02:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by newsomfamily@verizon.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would have to agree with your sister. Being under the same roof together is hard enough, and with his mother, things might just get nuts. Not only do you have to mind your fiance, but his mother too. And chances are, being a newly wed means there would be fights like any relationship. And with his mother around supporting her own son, you are sure to get a mouthful.
2006-12-11 02:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by Chi78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is right. Besides the fact....why will you be paying all the expense for her to live in 1/2 the home. No, this is not a good idea and will cause you many, many, many problems in the future.
2006-12-11 02:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by Condar_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends entirely on the relationship you have with your mother in law to be. If you consider her age and experience as a useful resource and her presence as female companionship and a helping hand....it might be a great thing. Peace.
2006-12-11 02:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may sound like a good idea, built in baby sitter. Do not do it. You two need the time alone, time to grow, time for him to get to know your kids. He can not please two woman in the same house. Several years down the road maybe.
2006-12-11 02:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by cm f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say move in. I can't wait to see you on Jerry Springer sometime in the future!!
2006-12-11 02:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by ckgene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your sister.
2006-12-11 02:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your last question, you were married to a lazy guy. wtf trailer trash? Little bored tonight?
2006-12-11 02:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋