ok i know this probably isnt in the right category. but ok heres the deal. im 17 and have a 3 month old baby. the father and i are no longer together but he tries to be "involved" but he doesnt give money or anything to help out. and i even think the only reason he comes over is to try and patch things up with me because he hardly holds the baby or plays with him. My mom and i can no longer afford living here (we're in CA) so we're planning on moving to Arizona. and i think this is a good idea also because i dont wanna be around the father and i dont think raising my baby with that family is a good idea because 1)the babys grandfather beats up his son 2)theres history of sexual abuse and nothing was done about it & 3) theyre just not good people.
so my question is could he take the baby away from me if i end up leaving? because his parents are those type of people that brain wash him into getting a lawyer and all this junk. and also is there anything I can do so he wont take the baby?
2006-12-10 18:21:30 · 13 answers · asked by Jade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i forgot to mention hes 17 also
2006-12-10 18:37:23 · update #1
Get the best job you can as soon as possible. In any sort of custody battle, the court looks for which environment is best for the child, and will award the baby to the more responsible party. Keep your house clean and keep your bills in order, as all that can make or break your case for custody. I am also from California and moved to Arizona when I could no longer afford to live there. It sucks, but there are worse cities out there. Just be careful on the roads and stay off the highways on Friday and Saturday nights because people drive like maniacs out here. Good luck. Email me if you need support.
2006-12-10 18:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jack S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ddepends on who has custody of the child is there a custody order in place right now? If so,it does state that you cannot take the child out of California w/out dads ok. But, if you go to court explain he is not paying you support, and you need to leave to make a better life for you and your child, the judge may grant you the permission to leave.
If there isn't a custody order in place then you should be ok to go. I would consult a lawyer before leaving though. Good Luck!
2006-12-11 02:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by computergrl69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father is a responsible adult with a good job and not a junkie,
he might take the child away from you because you are still a
teen.You stated that the father's family are no good, this you
must prove it in court if it will come to that.
2006-12-11 02:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by ROMEO M B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he isnt paying child support then most likely he wouldnt win a case in court anyhow. chances r that he wont be able to take the baby away cause ur the mother who gave birth. um if u want get a lawyer and take his *** to court for not paying for the kid, or find a single lad such as myself
2006-12-11 02:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by blowme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all the info you stated, you have a fighting chance to keep your child. You need to seek legal counseling, and spiritual counseling. You must take in account the child, would you want to be raised without a dad. you must also think about what role will he likely have. Pray and ask God for strength.
God Bless
2006-12-11 02:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by da realest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sucks! well first off I think he might just be coming around to try to get back into your pants. secondly as the father he does have the right to see his child and can go to court in order to have those rights on paper. if it comes to worse you should get a lawyer and have proof of the above comments you made about him, and get child support.
good luck
2006-12-11 02:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a good case, a judge is not just going to take your baby away because the daddy says so. Don't worry it will work out.
2006-12-11 02:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, move away with the baby, break the baby's father family cycle, do not expose your baby to this,if seen the baby can grow up mimicking those same bad habits
2006-12-11 02:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by lynnholmessr@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does have rights but he isn't even giving you money...I think it would be better to get a lawyer to have 100% of your child...
2006-12-11 02:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get full custody before you move to avoid any problems.
2006-12-11 02:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋