Well i'm 18 years old,16 weeks pregnant and by the time i will have this baby i will be 19.I didn't exactly plan on getting pregnant but the only thing i really wanted to do with my life was just have a family.I live with my bf and finacally were ok to have a baby, but i do not have a job.I was just wondering anyones opnion have the ever been in this situation.Do you think i'm to young, maybe don't really know what i'm thinking,think im lazy cuz i dont want to work and have a family instead? Thx for all your opnions.
2006-12-10 18:13:55 · 6 answers · asked by Bens Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you have to ask these questions, you obviously feel insecure about the decisions you have made and don't need a bunch of schmucks on the net to tell you otherwise. Sit down, re-examine what you're going through, even make a pros and cons list and do some soul searching...then work on fixing the problems/making your life better.
Congrats on the baby by the way!
2006-12-10 18:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met my hubby at 15, got pregnant at 17, married at 19 and I'm 21 now. Our daughter is 3 1/2 years old. My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years. I don't regret my decisions, I'm completely happy, I got my GED and work for a GREAT company. I make almost $20 an hour, I work 3rd shift. I'm home during the day and take care of household duties. While my husband is at work. It's all about your ambitions in life, what you want to be, besides a mother, a wife ect. You can still have a life, and have a family. It requires determination and perservance! It is possible. In the end, if your not happy, then start working towards some goals, start small, dream big!!!
2006-12-11 00:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by J*A*K*C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 17 and i am now 21 and have a ten month old son. I do not work bc i dont want to miss out on any of my babies milestones. Maybe when he starts school i will work, but time goes by so fast that i dont want to miss anything. I used to babysit and if the baby would start to crawl/sit up at my house i would lie to the mom the next day when she would ask if it happened with me bc i didnt want her to miss that and it made me kinda sad. I know it was probably wrong but i wanted her to feel like she got to witness it first. I dont think you should feel guilty at all. Dont worry about the young thing. Back in the day women had their first kids at 15! Just think, by the time all your kids move out you and your hubby will still be young enough to go on cruises and do fun stuff together!
2006-12-10 18:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Hayley C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're really young to be a mother, but you have no choice now. If you're financially stable like you say, than you don't have to work. What is financially stable in your mind though? It costs a lot to raise a family. Kids are expensive. If I were you, I'd possibly look into getting a part time job. If you have a high school diploma or GED, you can probably get something that isn't too bad.
2006-12-10 18:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by vmarie84 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~I think you should have waited, but you're already pregnant. You can still take your baby to day care and go back to work, if that's what you want?
Does your boyfriend think you're lazy, is that what this is about?
You can't change what you've done so far, you can only change what you do from here.
Good luck.~
2006-12-10 18:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its a little late for all that now isn't it?!
2006-12-10 18:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋